Then Jesus told him, Because you have seen me, you have believed; blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed. – John 20:29


Imagine my surprise when a non-Christian friend of mine in college informed me that I was an agnostic! “You go to a Christian school,” he said, “but you’re kind of agnostic aren’t you?” I was horrified. “What do you mean?” I stammered.

I just look at what you do,” he replied. “You don’t seem to spend time doing things other Christians do, and you sure do a lot of things they’d never do, so I just assumed that you were not too sure what you believed. That means you’re agnostic.

We can’t peer into the hearts of one another, yet sometimes our actions betray our hearts, don’t they? It wasn’t easy to be confronted with proof of my unbelief, but God used this unbeliever’s conclusions to bring me back to Him.

If you were tried for being a Christian, would the fruit of your life provide evidence in support of the charges?

“I once wanted to become an atheist but I gave up…they have no holidays.” – Henny Youngman

Lord, when the world looks at me, I pray that they are never unsure of what my religious beliefs are or have doubts about where my heart lies. 

How Long is Too Long to Keep Dating?

Michelle sent in a one sentence email with a very straightforward question: How long is too long to stay in a dating relationship?

Check out my answer to that very question in this “Ask Me Anything” feature on ….. Better yet, become a member and send me a question of your own!


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Man’s Inhumanity to Man

Today I’m musing about man’s inhumanity to man. I want to share some interesting stories; one about a Japanese hero, another about surviving the Holocaust with unlikely helpers, Victor Frankel’s “Man’s Search for Meaning,” and the power of elevating our fellow man through love and high expectations. Watch the video here.


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Giving Thanks – Day 6

“A grateful heart is one that finds the countless blessings of God in the seemingly mundane everyday life.”


For the next few days, learn how to Cultivate a Heart of Gratitude Within Your Home this Thanksgiving Season—7 simple ways

Part 2 of 5.

  1. Journal.
  2. Tell Stories. Share the story of Pastor Martin Rinkart with your family.

In 1636 the Thirty Years’ War was raging. Death, disease, and economic collapse enveloped Europe in a fog of terror. One German pastor, Martin Rinkart, is said to have buried five thousand of his parishioners in one year, an average of fifteen people daily! Yet under the shadow of death and amidst a crucible of chaos, Rinkart penned this beautiful table grace for his children:

 Now thank we all our God
With heart and hands and voices
Who wondrous things had done
In whom His world rejoices.

Who, from our mother’s arms
Hath led us on our way
With countless gifts of love
still is ours today.

Talk about this with your family. Was this man in denial? Out of touch? Hardly. Rinkart was a person of audacious faith. He knew thanksgiving flows from love of God, not outward circumstance. Share this story and sing the table grace he wrote for his children.

Tomorrow, part 3.



To the roots of the mountains I sank down; the earth beneath barred me in forever. But you brought my life up from the pit, O LORD my God. – Jonah 2:6


Don’t curse or grumble about the obstacles in your path, look at them as character builders. Find a way to move them, or pray your way through them. Call to mind the words of the great American educator Booker T. Washington, who said: ‘I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. People are surprisingly generous with advice, especially if you take the time to befriend them first. And remember to be thankful. You may meet a mentor who’ll encourage and support you for years to come.

The main thing, however, is not to throw in the towel when you encounter bumps in the road. Remember, when you’re traveling up a mountain, it’s the bumps you climb on.

Steve Arterburn

Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment, you can grow more surely toward the stars.‘ – Brian Tracy (1944- )

Living with Limitations

If you can? said Jesus. Everything is possible for him who believes. – Mark 9:23

Living with Limitations

It is almost as presumptuous to think you can do nothing as to think you can do everything. In other words, be honest about your limitations, but don’t exaggerate them, or use them as an excuse to keep from being a productive person.

Joni Erikson Tada embodies this truth well. Paralyzed below the neck as a result of a diving accident, she has ministered to millions through her speaking, singing, and painting (she holds a paintbrush in her mouth!) What an inspiration she is!

Helen Keller who also embodied this truth expressed such an attitude in this beautiful statement: ‘I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. I will not refuse to do the something I can do.’

Steve Arterburn

Be hopeful of a man whose limitations are not yet known; maybe he won’t reach them.” – Unknown

Folly of Bitterness

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling, and slander, along with every form of malice. – Ephesians 4:31

Folly of Bitterness

Two shopkeepers owned stores directly across the street from each other. Each spent his days tracking the others’ business, and gloating triumphantly each time a customer chose his own store. Over time, they became bitter rivals.

One night an angel appeared to one of the shopkeepers and said, ‘I’ll give you anything you request, but whatever you receive, your competitor will receive double. Would you be rich? You can be very rich indeed, but he’ll be twice as wealthy. Do you desire a long and healthy life? Request it, but his life will be longer and healthier. What’s your desire?’

The man thought for a moment, and with a sly grin, stated, ‘Strike me blind in one eye!’

Bitterness is relentless and dangerous when allowed to take root in our hearts. It destroys decision-making abilities and compromises otherwise focused and productive lives. Its only remedy is forgiveness freely by Jesus Christ. And if you believe the Bible, we are to dispense it generously to others.

Take a step out of bitterness into forgiveness today. Forgive the unforgivable. You can do it!

Steve Arterburn

We forgive to the extent that we love.‘ – La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680)

New Life Live: October 22, 2014


Topics: DatingAffairsIntimacyAlcholicsTeensSuicideAbuse 
Hosts: Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions:

  1. Is Dialectical Behavior Therapy a good therapy? 
  2. Why was I attracted to a date that I found out was married and another one into porn? 
  3. We reconciled after my husband’s affairs, but how do I get back the desire to be intimate with him? 
  4. Comment: My alcoholic uncle is now sober and back in church! 
  5. Should I still live with my husband who had an emotional affair for 7yrs? 
  6. My 15yo grandson is suicidal and wants to live with us; what will help him the most? 
  7. I saw “Trauma Bonding” at; how do I heal from my abusive marriage? 
  8. My wife was caught in an affair, and I don’t know what to do. 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Is This The One
Sexually Confident Wife
NIV Spiritual Renewal Bible
Every Man’s Battle

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Giving the Best Answer

We know also that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true. And we are in him who is true, even in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life. – 1 John 5:20

Giving the Best Answer

A college philosophy professor asked just one question on his final exam. He picked up a chair, put it on his desk, and wrote on the blackboard, ‘Using everything we have learned this semester, prove that this chair does not exist.’

Most students wrote feverishly for the entire hour, some of them churning out twenty pages of heady philosophical logic. But one student turned in her paper after less than a minute, and she was the only one to get an A. What did she write? Two simple words: ‘What chair?’

Engaging people in a gentle, respectful, yet influential manner is an art. There are numerous ideological and emotional pitfalls to avoid with balanced decision-making skills and alert reasoning. But this young philosophy student has learned something that we too must learn: sometimes the wisest argument is no argument at all.

Steve Arterburn

Faith is not being sure where you’re going but going anyway.‘ – Frederick Buechner (1926- )

Taking the Good with the Bad

Ever had a great day going, then one bad thing happens and you feel like a total failure?   Henry Cloud calls it “the Good/Bad split when we look at things as either all good or all bad. On New Life TV, we’re discussing why we need to accept and integrate both the good and bad aspects of people and of life. Watch the video.


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