The Lord has made his salvation known and revealed his righteousness to the nations. – Psalm 98:2


Have you ever had one of those days where nothing was going your way, and you just felt like God was against you? I know it’s an over-inflated ego thing to think that way. But that’s partly why I wrote my book, Reframe Your Life. In that book I try to outline how you can change the way you view your life.

Have you ever sat in the doctor’s office waiting for the doctor, and he’s running late. You become irritated at the doctor and his lack of consideration for other people’s schedules. But instead of getting irritated, have you ever thought to use that time to think through more carefully what issues you want to discuss with the doctor, or to stop and think about your day, your week, or the things you want to do and people you want to call, or stop and use the quiet moment to spend some time praying for your friends and family.

That’s just a small example of reframing your thinking. Reframing will keep you from asking the “why” questions in life and just accept those things that don’t have answers and move on. Yes, there’s still pain to work through, but it helps to realize that everything in life hasn’t been targeted at you. God is not your abuser. He is not your past. He is not all the bad and hurtful things that have happened to you. He is a loving God who wants the very best for you and who went to great lengths to let you know how valuable you are. So valuable that He allowed His Son to go to the cross for you.

Learn to reframe your thinking and you’ll see life differently than you ever have.

– Steve Arterburn

I’m not funny. What I am is brave. – Lucille Ball 

The Power of Patience

The Power of Patience

We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage  the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone. – 1 Thessalonians 5:14 NASB  


Life demands patience . . . and lots of it! We live in an imperfect world inhabited by imperfect people. Sometimes, we inherit troubles from others, and sometimes we create trouble for ourselves. In either case, what’s required is patience.

Lamentations 3:25-26 reminds us that, “The Lord is wonderfully good to those who wait for him and seek him. So it is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord” (NIV). But, for most of us, waiting quietly for God is difficult. Why? Because we are fallible human beings, sometimes quick to anger and sometimes slow to forgive.

The next time you find your patience tested to the limit, remember that the world unfolds according to God’s timetable, not ours. Sometimes, we must wait patiently, and that’s as it should be. After all, think how patient God has been with us.

Two signposts of faith: “Slow Down” and “Wait Here.” ~Charles Stanley

Our challenge is to wait in faith for the day of God’s favor and salvation.   ~Jim Cymbala

God never hurries. There are no deadlines against which He must work. To know this is to quiet our spirits and relax our nerves. ~A. W. Tozer

As we wait on God, He helps us use the winds of adversity to soar above our problems. As the Bible says, “Those who wait on the LORD . . . shall mount up with wings like eagles.” ~Billy Graham

Dear Lord, let me live according to Your plan and according to Your timetable. When I am hurried, Lord, slow me down.  When I become impatient with others, give me empathy. Today, Lord, let me be a patient Christian, and let me trust in You and in Your master plan. Amen

28 Quotes on being thankful

thankful quotes

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.
― William Arthur Ward

The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving. – H. U. Westermayer

Come, let us sing for joy to the Lord; let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation. Let us come before him with thanksgiving and extol him with music and song. For the Lord is the great God, the great King above all gods. In his hand are the depths of the earth, and the mountain peaks belong to him. The sea is his, for he made it, and his hands formed the dry land. – Psalm 95:1-5

God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say, ‘Thank you?’ – William Ward

Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. Worship the Lord with gladness; come before him with joyful songs. Know that the Lord is God. It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture. Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name. For the Lord is good and his love endures forever; his faithfulness continues through all generations. – Psalm 100:1-5

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. – John F. Kennedy

Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. – 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

There is no such thing as gratitude unexpressed. If it is unexpressed, it is plain, old-fashioned ingratitude. – Robert Brault

Give thanks to the LORD, call on his name; make known among the nations what he has done. – 1 Chronicles 16:8

You say grace before meals. All right. But I say grace before the concert and the opera, and grace before the play and pantomime, and grace before I open a book, and grace before sketching, painting, swimming, fencing, boxing, walking, playing, dancing and grace before I dip the pen in the ink. – G.K. Chesterton

Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. – 1 Chronicles 16:34

The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but let the thankful heart sweep through the day and as the magnet finds the iron, so it will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings! – Henry Ward Beecher

I will give thanks to the LORD because of his righteousness and will sing praise to the name of the LORD Most High. – Psalm 7:17

Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all. – William Faulkner

With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation. In that day you will say: ‘Give thanks to the LORD, call on his name; make known among the nations what he has done, and proclaim that his name is exalted. Sing to the LORD, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world.’ – Isaiah 12:3-5

If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily. – Gerald Good

From them will come songs of thanksgiving and the sound of rejoicing. I will add to their numbers, and they will not be decreased; I will bring them honor, and they will not be disdained. – Jeremiah 30:19

Who does not thank for little will not thank for much. – Estonian Proverb

Is not the cup of thanksgiving for which we give thanks a participation in the blood of Christ? And is not the bread that we break a participation in the body of Christ? – 1 Corinthians 10:16

The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings. – Eric Hoffer

Now he who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness. You will be made rich in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God. This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of God’s people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God. – 2 Corinthians 9:10-12

When our perils are past, shall our gratitude sleep? – George Canning

For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. – Ephesians 1:15-16

Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart. – Henry Clay

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. – Ephesians 5:3-4

The grateful person, being still the most severe exacter of himself, not only confesses, but proclaims, his debts. – Robert South

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. – William Arthur Ward

I always thank my God as I remember you in my prayers. – Philemon 1:4

New Life Live: August 31, 2012


Topics: DatingParentingPornographyAddGetting Unstuck,
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill HubbardMilan Yerkovich
Caller Questions:

  1. How do I get to know someone through online dating? 
  2. Should I move my son away from his dad to attend a better school? 
  3. I had a tiny porn incident years ago; should I divulge it to my wife? 
  4. Is neuro feedback helpful for a defiant 12yo boy with ADD? 
  5. How do I help my friend who feels stuck after being raped 15yrs ago? 
  6. After 7yrs of separation, is it time to move forward? 

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Every Man’s Battle
Walking Into Walls

New Life Live: July 8, 2011


Topics: Divorce, Salvation, Forgiveness, Emotional Abuse, Blended Family

Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:
1. At what age is it OK not to be friends with your abusive ex?
2. How do I come back to the Lord after the mistakes I have made?
3. My emotionally abusive childhood is affecting my marriage.
4. I have a blended family issue with my 10yo daughter.

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
How We Love
Forgiving Our Parents Forgiving Ourselves

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New Life Live: March 23, 2011


Steve Arterburn, Dr. John Townsend, Dr. Henry Cloud

Discussion Topics:
Salvation, sexual integrity, healing childhood wounds, marriage, creating boundaries.

Caller Questions:
1. Can you be saved and have a sex addiction?
2. I lost my job and home; how can I find God again?
3. Is it normal not to have memories before age 10?
4. When my husband’s business doesn’t make money, he makes us suffer instead of his employees.
5. Living next door to my mom is draining my joy; how do I cope?

Suggested Resources:
Every Man’s Battle
Every Man’s Bible
The Mom Factor

Seeking God and Finding Happiness

But happy are those . . . whose hope is in the LORD their God.

Do you sincerely want to be a happy Christian? Then set your mind and your heart upon God’s love and His grace.

Happiness depends less upon our circumstances than upon our thoughts. When we turn our thoughts to God, to His gifts, and to His glorious creation, we experience the joy that God intends for His children. But, when we focus on the negative aspects of life, we suffer needlessly.

The fullness of life in Christ is available to all who seek it and claim it. Count yourself among that number. Seek first the salvation that is available through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and then claim the joy, the peace, and the spiritual abundance that the Shepherd offers His sheep.

True happiness consists only in the enjoyment of God. His favor is life, and His loving-kindness is better than life.   ~Arthur W. Pink

Pleasure-seeking is a barren business; happiness is never found till we have the grace to stop looking for it and to give our attention to persons and matters external to ourselves.   ~J. I. Packer

No matter how hard he searches, nothing beneath the skies and nothing above the skies can make any man happy apart from God.   ~C. H. Spurgeon

God has charged Himself with full responsibility for our eternal happiness and stands ready to take over the management of our lives the moment we turn in faith to Him.   ~A. W. Tozer

Dear Lord, I am thankful for all the blessings You have given me. Let me be a happy Christian, Father, as I share Your joy with friends, with family, and with the world. Amen