Taming the Monster

It teaches us to say NO to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age. – Titus 2:12

Taming the Monster

Are you aware that the vast majority of American homes are inhabited by a monster? It’s true. In fact, most homes now have several. Family rooms, bedrooms, and basements are their favorite spots. The older, larger, ones sometimes have four legs; and some of the younger ones hang on walls. Have you guessed? I’m talking about your televisions. And make no mistake about it: they are monsters.

Like many things in life, your television isn’t inherently bad. It has the potential to provide education and entertainment. The problem is, for most of us, the television has transgressed all proper and constructive boundaries in our homes and lives. Consequently, our conversations, our meals, our study time, our attention spans, our sleep–even our sex lives–have been invaded by this household monster.

You don’t need to throw the baby out with the bath water, but it wouldn’t hurt to set some boundaries for our TV use, both for us and for our kids.

– Steve Arterburn

If it weren’t for Philo T. Farnsworth, inventor of television, we’d still be eating frozen radio dinners.” – Johnny Carson (1925–2005)

 

New Life Live: July 23, 2015

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Topics: Anxiety, Dating, Blended Families, Marriage, Intimacy, Affairs
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Why have I had anxiety attacks since childhood?
  2. I am dating a woman with grown children and one does not like me; how do I change that?
  3. Is it wrong I do not want to have sex with my womanizing husband?
  4. Should I require my husband to make a full disclosure about his infidelity?

Suggested Resources:
Fear and Anxiety CD
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love

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New Life Live: July 9, 2015

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Topics: Dating, Affairs, Adult Children, Substance Abuse, Addictions, Marriage, Boundaries, Forgiveness
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop
Caller Questions:

  1. What causes a boyfriend to go from sweet to giving me the brush off?
  2. My adult son caught dad with another woman; why did he choose to smoke weed and be rude to me?
  3. How do I help my friend whose husband meets with another woman at the kid’s playground?
  4. My adult kids won’t see me since divorcing their father 7yrs ago; how do I repair our relationship?
  5. What boundaries would be helpful to a lying, gambling, cheating husband?
  6. Because of my OCD I often say sex words without wanting to; will God forgive me?

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Worthy of Her Trust

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Should Married People Have Friends of the Opposite Sex?

It sounds like a crazy question…of course we can all have friends of all kinds. But when you are married, it’s important to put your spouse first in all things, and that means having some serious boundaries about opposite sex friendship. Click here to watch!

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New Life Live: September 18, 2014

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Topics: Sexual IntimacyEating DisordersDatingGuiltParentingDivorce
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. Sex is painful for me and then my husband feels rejected; how can we make sex enjoyable? 
  2. My fiancée has been bulimic for 14yrs; how can I respond to her with compassion and not anger? 
  3. I am teaching a singles leadership class; is it ethical to date someone from class? 
  4. How do I get past the guilt of asking my ex for the child support he owes me? 
  5. My ex is not mentally right; should I allow my 13yo daughter to visit him? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
7 Minute Marriage Solution Devotional Bible
Book of Life Recovery
Boundaries CD

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Teen Daughter Sneeks Out to Have Sex

A distraught mom wrote us. Her 15-year-old daughter recently snuck out out the house, walked to an older boy’s house and had sex with him. She confessed to her youth minister, and ultimately to her parents.   What is the proper response? Should she take away access to dance, her daughter’s passion?   Shannon Ethridge, Author & Speaker and I offer our points of view to help her navigate a tough parenting situation.  #WATCH the full video here: http://bit.ly/1sCtwbu

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Steve Arterburn: My Apology to all Women

In case you missed this on our new TV channel here’s your chance to see this very touching and tender message from Steve Arterburn. Steve says: ” Toward the end of the show about sex trauma I recorded with Sheri Keffer, I really felt compelled to say something important to all the women watching. It came straight from the heart. And when the show was over, I was overcome with emotion. I had no idea the cameras were still rolling and I learned a lot about myself that day.” Click on the image to watch.

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New Life Live: October 24, 2013

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Topics: BoundariesFriendshipsMarriageSexual IntegrityForgivenessParentingSexual Abuse
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Henry CloudDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I help my mentally ill best friend without breaking my boundaries? 
  2. I shared my impure thoughts with my wife, and she left me; how do I get her back? 
  3. The kids think I am unforgiving, but they don’t know all the sex partners their dad has had. 
  4. How do I deal with the family denial that my young daughters were sexually abused? 

Suggested Resources:
Boundaries
Healing Is a Choice
Raising Great Kids

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New Life Live: August 27, 2013

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Topics: ParentingAlcohol AbuseBorderlineBoundariesMarriageIntimacy
Hosts: Dr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. Should I kick out my 19yo son who drinks and drives? 
  2. My sister may be borderline; how do I set boundaries if she moves in with me? 
  3. After 4-5 counselors, my husband hasn’t changed and it’s now affecting our daughter. 
  4. As a newlywed, is it normal for my husband to want sex 2-3 times a day? 

Suggested Resources:
Book of Life Recovery
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Just Us

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New Life Live: August 12, 2013

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Topics: BoundariesSex AddictMarriageChristian WalkDatingControllerIntimacy
Hosts: Steve ArterburnMilan Yerkovich, Guest Host Marilyn Meberg

Caller Questions:

  1. What boundaries do you suggest for a love addict married to a sex addict? 
  2. How can I help a friend whose husband tells her that God doesn’t love her? 
  3. My fiancée said I am controlling, and then she left. 
  4. Why would our sex life go from healthy to none? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love
Is This The One

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