New Life Live: July 24, 2015

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Topics: Dating, Adult Children, Homeless, Pornography, Parenting, Divorce
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. My boyfriend of one year is in love with me; am I being too cautious if I don’t feel the same?
  2. How can I help my 35yo son who has been homeless for 10yrs?
  3. Should I separate from my husband who has had a porn addiction for 45yrs?
  4. My mom only showed tough love; how do I NOT turn into that kind of parent?
  5. Now that the kids are grown, is it OK to divorce my husband?

Suggested Resources:
Every Man’s Bible
Worthy of Her Trust
Forgiving Our Parents

This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today:

God started the EMB workshop for me. I have learned more about myself, marriage, and my wife this weekend then I have my entire life. I finally feel like I can live a shame free life for the first time since my wife found out about my addiction. If I continue to act out after learning the things that I have learned this weekend, then I truly do not deserve to be with my wife. This EMB workshop has helped me to see both my marriage and my wife in a whole different and better light. – Corey

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New Life Live: July 23, 2015

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Topics: Anxiety, Dating, Blended Families, Marriage, Intimacy, Affairs
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Why have I had anxiety attacks since childhood?
  2. I am dating a woman with grown children and one does not like me; how do I change that?
  3. Is it wrong I do not want to have sex with my womanizing husband?
  4. Should I require my husband to make a full disclosure about his infidelity?

Suggested Resources:
Fear and Anxiety CD
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love

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New Life Live: July 17, 2015

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Topics: Sexual Abuse, Pedophile, Marriage, Narcissists, Dating, Avoiders, Divorce, Parenting
Hosts: Dr. Sheri Keffer, Milan Yerkovich with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband denies molesting a family member; should I end it with him?
  2. Will the Marriage Weekend work for me and my OCPD husband? 
  3. How can I get away from a 10yr narcissistic relationship and survive?
  4. My angry avoider husband is coming home after living in another state for 6mos; how can we communicate?
  5. We got divorced 8yrs ago and now my 13yo son is asking questions about it.

Suggested Resources:
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Boundaries in Marriage
How We Love Our Kids

We had several testimonies read on the show today:

This is the Healing is a Choice Workshop testimony:

Before coming to this weekend, my life was isolated, sad, lonely, full of shame and self-anger.   Helpless- I felt I had worked so hard for so long and still was a mess. Felt I would always be broken, no matter what I did or how hard I worked. This weekend has been freeing. It gave me the safe place to finally say – outloud , to other humans -the shame that has kept me held captive. It’s given me new lifetime friends. I leave here with courage to continue on my healing path and new tools to help make the journey. I have a renewed belief that I can be who God intended me to be. I will heal with God’s help. To anyone considering attending this event, I’d say: Come! Don’t let anything or anyone keep you from this healing workshop. – Lori

This is the Marriage Solution Workshop testimony:

This New Life Marriage weekend has been more than what I could think would happen! The Lord has shown up in a major way in the hearts and minds of my wife and me. He multiplied the small measure of willingness that we had coming here into a harvest of restoration and reconciliation. This Marriage Weekend is the best opportunity out there for the purpose of helping or restoring your marriage bar none! – Brad

This is the We Dared, 30-Day Challenge testimony:

I just want to let you know that the 30 Days of “We Dared” has been a huge help to me in “bouncing my eyes”.  I’ll share a few examples.  First, just a little about myself.  I am a 68 year old grandfather, former pastor. and now a construction worker – working for my son.  I drive a big truck and so I come and go on road construction sites all day.  As I roll along I see all kinds of pretty girls on the sidewalk.  I am learning not to linger on their feminine beauty but to pray for them instead.  A few days ago I was in one of the construction shacks and I just sort of “became aware of a picture of a topless woman” picture, before I actually saw it – and was able to walk away without actually seeing it.  This past week we were working at an intersection of a street installing a water main.  There, 30 feet in front of me was a ten foot tall “Hooters Girl”.  I had to sit there in my truck for 10 minutes or so several times as my truck was being loaded.  Because of the “We Dared” campaign, I am happy to say that I never lingered on her picture as I sat in front of it. Last but not least, I get much of my news from the Fox News Website.  Previously, I had often clicked on the “articles” which showed way too much of the female body.  Since going through the program, I haven’t done this once!  I know that this will always be a struggle, but so far, God has given my strength to “stop before I get too excited and want to see more.” I’m not sure exactly were the “this is pornography” line begins.  But it seems to me that a guy can see “pornography” without actually going to a porn website. Thank you so much for the tremendous help I received in the “We Dared” program.  I pray God will continue to give you the creative and inspirational ministry you lead.  I just watched your “Father’s Day” message at Heartland.  “Good job”, my friend.  I love who you are and what you do.  Keep up the good work.

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New Life Live: July 16, 2015

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Topics: Homosexuals, Christian Walk, Confrontation, In-laws, Sexual Abuse, Parenting, Social Media, Adult Children
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Is it Christian to be a wedding photographer at a gay wedding?
  2. How can I stop my in-laws from talking to my kids about their dad, who is in prison for molesting our daughter?
  3. What’s the best way to debate the Bible on social media?
  4. My 21yo daughter has expressed same-sex attraction; should we let her be or fight to protect her?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love Our Kids
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
How We Love

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New Life Live: July 15, 2015

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Topics: Affairs, Reconciliation, Intimacy, Alcoholics, Dating, Christian Walk, Separation
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer and Guest Host Chris Williams, a therapist specializing in addiction, trauma and family recovery

Caller Questions:

  1. My narcissist husband had an affair and I kicked him out; is there any hope?
  2. Why can’t I be honest with my husband about my feelings?
  3. I have been sober for 5yrs thanks to the Healing Is a Choice workshop!
  4. Is it a problem that my girlfriend and I are unequally yoked spiritually?
  5. After separation and 9mos of counseling, my husband has made no progress; what now?

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Worthy of Her Trust
Life Recovery Bible
Every Man’s Bible
7 Minute Marriage Solution

This is the Healing is a Choice Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

Before this weekend, I had learned to live my life in isolation and protected from others. My “stuff” of hurt, pain, disappointment, and fear has kept me in my own prison. I hid so you wouldn’t see who I am and not like me. This weekend has been a like changing experience for me. With safe people I will come out from the shadows and into the light of connection and freedom to be who God designed me to be . . . connected to a community of loving, caring people. I leave here lighter than I came, my “stuff” is on a rock in a bucket, surrendered to a loving compassionate God that accepts me and forgives me. To anyone considering attending this event I’d say run, drive, fly – however you can – get to a Healing Is A Choice Weekend. Come with a purpose and willingness to change and watch what God will do for you! – Scott

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New Life Live: July 14, 2015

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Topics: Childhood Abuse, Alcoholics, Marriage, Stress, Anxiety, Pornography
Hosts: Dr. Sheri Keffer, Milan Yerkovich with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I help my wife who was abused as a child and has alcoholic parents?
  2. My husband and I disagree on how to rebuild our marriage.
  3. Is there help for my stress and anxiety when my husband’s income goes up and down?
  4. My husband is addicted to porn and alcohol; what else can I do?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
5 Blind Spots
Boundaries

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New Life Live: July 9, 2015

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Topics: Dating, Affairs, Adult Children, Substance Abuse, Addictions, Marriage, Boundaries, Forgiveness
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop
Caller Questions:

  1. What causes a boyfriend to go from sweet to giving me the brush off?
  2. My adult son caught dad with another woman; why did he choose to smoke weed and be rude to me?
  3. How do I help my friend whose husband meets with another woman at the kid’s playground?
  4. My adult kids won’t see me since divorcing their father 7yrs ago; how do I repair our relationship?
  5. What boundaries would be helpful to a lying, gambling, cheating husband?
  6. Because of my OCD I often say sex words without wanting to; will God forgive me?

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Forgiving the Unforgivable
Worthy of Her Trust

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New Life Live: July 3, 2015

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Topics: Affairs, Divorce, Grandparenting, Marriage, Parent Issues, Boundaries, Dating, Sexual Integrity, Pornography
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. After several affairs, we are divorcing; how do we explain it to the grandkids who adore him?
  2. My father is angry at me for marrying my husband; how do I get him to accept my husband?
  3. My husband’s family is unkind; why would he just say to accept it?
  4. Has my daughter been affected by me growing up in an enmeshed family?
  5. Do I set boundaries or leave if my husband uses porn again?

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers
Is This The One
Worthy of Her Trust

Here is the Women in the Battle workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today:

Prior to this weekend, my husband and I could never resolve issues because hurt, frustration, and disappointment were always chasing us around. This weekend has been life changing. The new techniques and understanding of each other’s baggage has lifted the scales from my eyes so that I can see my husband as the man God intended. Anyone considering attending the New Life Marriage Weekend should sign up now! Beg, borrow or steal to get there, but go! – Kirsten

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New Life Live: July 2, 2015

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Topics: College Grads, Dating, Marriage, Grief, Affairs, Christian Walk
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I motivate my college grad nephew who is staying with me?
  2. I am in love with my friend but everyone says she is using me.
  3. How can I revive my dead marriage of 33yrs?
  4. The family doesn’t want to gather anymore after my mom passed; what can I do about it?
  5. Is it foolish to salvage my marriage after my husband was unfaithful twice and went to counseling?
  6. How can I deal with my husband while God has him in a holding pattern and he backslides?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love Our Kids
Is This The One
Healing Is a Choice
Worthy of Her Trust

This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

Honestly, it is not an enjoyable workshop, not fun, not easy, but so very needed and above anything I’ve ever experienced in my life next to salvation. EMB is very informative and gets to the root of what Satan uses to keep men in bondage. EMB is God sent! God Bless you guys who have given themselves selflessly to this ministry to help men be real men. – James

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New Life Live: June 29, 2015

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Topics: Pornography, Sexual Addiction, Affairs, Trauma, Church Life, Marriage, Boundaries, Abandonment
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Dave Stoop, Dr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. What help is there for women with pornography and sexual addictions?
  2. My husband is involved with porn stars; why does he say it is my fault?
  3. How do I respond to a church that says my trauma and illness is from my unbelief?
  4. Should I allow my husband’s ex-girlfriend to move in with him while we are separated?
  5. What boundaries should I place on a husband who has walked out 3 times in 8 months?

Suggested Resources:
Every Woman’s Battle
When You Love Too Much
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Healing Is a Choice

This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today –

This weekend I have realized that this problem is NOT my wife’s fault! I subconsciously have been blaming her for my acting out, thinking “If she would only respect me, or love me just as I am, I wouldn’t have to do pornography to fill the void.” This weekend I have learned the value and importance of being involved in a men’s group, and that there is strength in a group. I have also realized that Jesus’ blood covered my sins, EVERYTHING that I have done. Nothing I have done is too terrible or too big not to be covered by Jesus’ blood. Now I can leave it to Him and I don’t have to just try harder. I can trust that God will be on this journey with me. Thank you New Life. – Wayne

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