Winning Prisoners

Set me free from my prison, that I may praise your name. Then the righteous will gather about me because of your goodness to me. – Psalm 142:7

Winning Prisoners

Four inmates at the Greenville, Mississippi city jail were caught breaking back into their cells! And according to the district attorney, “It is entirely possible this wasn’t the first time they’ve done this.

The four apparently found a way for repeated access to the outside world. Yet according to the police chief, “They didn’t seem interested in escaping, they just missed their amenities of life and went back to get them.” This particular time, they returned to jail carrying a load of gin and marijuana. Ironically, these willing prisoners now face felony escape charges.

Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction. How many of us have resolved to spend our days in prisons of our own making—prisons we’re able to escape through personal change, but won’t because the prison provides us a semblance of security?

You can be freed from whatever your prison is. Look for help—first to God, but then to those God has put in your path–a trusted friend, pastor or counselor. And remember God is a God of second chances.

- Steve Arterburn

I’m not crazy about reality, but it’s still the only place to get a decent meal.” – Groucho Marx (1890–1977)

New Life Live: March 10, 2015

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Topics: In-lawsDatingProcrastinationFinancesAffairsAnxietyAngerAvoiders 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop

Caller Questions:

  1. Does my husband spend too much time on the phone with his mother? 
  2. My boyfriend lets his bills go unpaid even though he has the money; is that a red flag?
  3. At 67yo, how do I heal from an affair I think my wife had 4yrs ago? 
  4. I haven’t left my apartment for 2mos and just start reading whenever I feel anxious; how do I move forward? 
  5. Is my angry wife affecting our 16yo’s behavior? 
  6. My husband shuts me out after we argue; what can I do? 

Suggested Resources:
Just Us
Is This The One
7 Minute Marriage Solution
7 Minute Marriage Solution Devotional Bible
Life Recovery Bible
Book of Life Recovery

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New Life Live: February 24, 2015

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Topics: Verbal AbuseParent IssuesForgivenessDivorceDatingSexual Integrity 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Sheri Keffer and Guest Host Leslie Vernick, author of The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

Caller Questions:

  1. How do I deal with my verbally abusive 92yo father? 
  2. My mom is angry that I didn’t support her in a conflict with my grandmother. 
  3. How do I move forward and make my own decisions after my 30yr marriage ended? 
  4. My mom wants to marry a man she met online and has not met in person; how do I respond? 
  5. My wife doesn’t want to work on her trust issues after I had lust issues; is it time to give up? 

Suggested Resources:
Emotionally Destructive Relationship
Hope & Healing from Emotional Abuse
Worthy of Her Trust

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New Life Live: February 20, 2015

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Topics: Adult ChildrenFearAnxietyAlcoholicsDifficult ConversationsDrug Addiction 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Sheri KefferMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. How do we rebuild a relationship with our bipolar daughter without involving her wife? 
  2. I still have panic attacks after being treated for PTSD; what more can I do? 
  3. My heart won’t let go of my alcoholic husband who now has legal problems. 
  4. How do I tell my friend she needs help with her cleanliness? 
  5. My husband’s drug addiction has ruined our marriage; is it time to divorce? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
Fear and Anxiety CD
Life Recovery Bible
Boundaries in Marriage
How We Love

This is the Every Man’s Battle testimony Steve read on the radio today:

I am a single guy of 36 and became aware of EMB through New Life’s daily radio show. I have stumbled upon it by chance on a cross-country drive a few months back. All I can say is “Thank You.” For many months – years, in fact, I had felt myself slipping into a pit of despair, shame, guilt, and condemnation. I felt there was no escape. Circumstance upon circumstance and failed relationship after failed relationship compounded upon one another to create a feeling of worthlessness and failure. This weekend helped me to connect dots that I previously couldn’t connect. It gave me insight into areas of my past that helped me make sense of my present and what has led me to this point. It has given me hope for the future and has provided me with a “jumping off point” for a life of fulfillment in the Lord. Thank you New Life for your ministry and for providing a doorway to a “new and better life.” God Bless You. - Vincent

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Small Slits Sink Ships

He must become greater; I must become less. – John 3:30

Small Slits Sink Ships

Did you know scientists now believe a series of slits, not a giant gash, sank the Titanic? The supposedly invincible cruise liner went down in 1912 on its first voyage. Fifteen hundred people perished, making it the worst maritime disaster of its time.

Until recently, the most widely held theory was that the ship hit an iceberg, opening a huge gash in the vessel’s side. But an international team of divers and scientists has used sound waves to probe the wreckage, buried in the mud under two-and-a-half miles of water. The damage was surprisingly small. Instead of a huge gash, they found only six, relatively narrow, slits across the watertight holds.

Small slits can sink great ships. What are the small slits in your life that might have serious consequences? Is some shoring up in order? If you don’t know what exactly needs shoring up, or you do know but don’t know how, seek some help, from a friend, your pastor, or a professional counselor.

- Steve Arterburn

A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.’ – Unknown

New Life Live: January 19, 2015

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Topics: Weight LossOCDSexual AddictionNarcissistsChurch LifeFearBoundaries, Caregivers 
Hosts: Dr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. I attended Healing Is a Choice for weight issues; should the next step be attending Lose It For Life? 
  2. My OCD husband is also a sex addict and a narcissist; is there help for him? 
  3. Does the Bible say to spend more time at church than with family? 
  4. Where is my faith when I jump to the worst case scenario and live in fear? 
  5. A family member insisted on staying with us while my mother is ill, but now I am the bad guy for cutting the visit short. 

Suggested Resources:
Book of Life Recovery
Toxic Faith  (no longer available from New Life)
Boundaries
Beyond Boundaries
Caregivers CD

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New Life Live: January 7, 2015

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Topics: AlcoholicsParentingAnxietyDivorceSexual IntegrityBoundaries 
Hosts: Dr. John TownsendDr. Dave Stoop with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. My father and father-in-law are both alcoholics; how do I explain it to my kids? 
  2. I am having anxiety over my 14yo daughter visiting her uninvolved dad in another state.
  3. My ex-wife is marrying a criminal; how do I share my concern for our 2yo son? 
  4. I haven’t seen my husband make changes after attending your workshop; is it time to separate? 
  5. How can I set a boundary with my husband who thinks he did nothing wrong? 

Suggested Resources:
Boundaries
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
How to Handle Difficult People
Boundaries in Marriage
Worthy of Her Trust

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Asking for Directions

I call to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I am saved from my enemies. – Psalm 18:3

Asking for Directions

God has a way of showing us that we don’t know as much as we think we do. And He will certainly act when we need to be shown that we don’t know better than He does.

That’s what happened to King Nebuchadnezzar who had to learn a serious lesson in humility. Talk about a severe act of mercy. This once proud king was struck with a mental illness for seven years. His mental illness caused him to roam the pastures outside the palace and chew grass like a cow. After paying the price for his pride, the once self-sufficient and self-centered king said, “Now I, Nebuchadnezzar, praise and exalt and glorify the King of heaven, because everything He does is right and all His ways are just. And those who walk in pride He is able to humble.” (Daniel 4:37) In this confession, three things are important, the words: “everything,” and “all,” and the phrase “His ways.”

These words speak to the king’s new understanding of God’s control and to the choice He wants each of us to make: God’s way or my way? Too often we neglect to ask God, “How do you want me to handle this?” or “How should I respond to this situation in a manner consistent with God’s word?”

The reasons for not asking these questions boil down to one of two issues: ignorance or arrogance. I don’t recommend either. Neither will benefit you, and both carry very high price tags.

“No time is so well spent in every day as that which we spend upon our knees.” J.C. Ryle (1816-1900)

TODAY’S PRAYER
Father, help me to always take the time to seek your will and direction. Your word is a lamp unto my feet, help me to remember to consult your word and help me to remember that Your way is always better than mine. Amen

New Life Live: December 25, 2014

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Topics: Blended FamiliesFearIn-lawsAlcoholicsNarcissistsDivorce 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Sheri KefferMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. After 6yrs of marriage, my husband’s sons are still not accepting their blended family; what can I do next? 
  2. How can I deal with my future mother-in-law and her sometimes wicked behavior? 
  3. Is it time to move on after being married 23yrs to an alcoholic narcissist? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
How We Love
When Two Aren’t One CD

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‘Twas A New Life Christmas

‘Twas a New Life Christmas when all through the house
Something special was stirring though ’twas quiet as a mouse.

The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
There’s one more than last year cause Daddy was there.

And I and my sissy were all snug in our beds.
Sugar plums and fairies replaced worries and dreads;

Sissy wasn’t crying from a mean dad’s slap,
She was still full of joy from an hour on his lap.

Through thin walls I could hear Mom and Dad’s loving chatter.
They were so happy together, and that’s all that mattered.

No more rage rising up in a shocking flash.
Things once shattered were now securely attached.

I’ll tell you what happened, if you want to know.
It all started changing just one year ago.

Things were so bad that Dad had to move out.
For months I was sad and full of much doubt.

It felt hopeless at home and I missed my dad
It was Christmas time and I shouldn’t be sad.

Things grew worse, and I wanted them better.
Thanks to seven, great magical letters.

800 NEW-LIFE” we heard hundreds of times,
I called them up and got a man on the line.

Some guy named Jeff just happened to know
How Daddy could get well and where he could go.

Like a man on a mission he knew the right pick,
Where well men walked out of after walking in sick.

This phone man was an angel not acting alone.
Mom said so, too, when she got off the phone.

“Satan will be defeated,” I listened in,
He assured us God’s love will ultimately win.

When he talked to Daddy, Daddy finally could see
It was time to get well; for himself, Mom, Sissy and me.

So, with God he went to work on his healing,
while our prayers went up from our bedside kneeling.

Dad getting help—my fears and pains to shrink,
But when he came home I knew not what to think.

So back on the line with my telephone Elf,
Amazingly I spoke to another named Jeff.

He said, “Please don’t worry, God has control.”
That I had to be ready, be brave and be bold.

When Daddy walked in, it was pure disbelief!
Was this the same man who had caused so much grief?

He looked happy, at peace, and went to his knees,
Holding both arms out begging, “Come to me please!”

He hugged me and kissed me for what seemed like an hour,
Telling me he was no longer his own higher power.

There were requests for forgiveness that I freely granted,
Bitter roots were uprooted and with pure love supplanted.

I told Daddy I forgave him long before he was through.
I told him,  “Mom and I know the same Higher Power, too!”

Then wouldn’t you know it when our tears nearly stopped,
Sissy came running, to his safe arms she plopped.

“I missed you, Daddy, are you home to stay?”
“Sissy, I’m here and will be in every way.”

“You don’t smell like you used to; your eyes are so bright.”
“Sissy, my heart had a wound, but is now filled with God’s light.”

Mommy spoke up while gently shutting the door.
“The man that once lived here . . . he lives here no more.”

“That man would hurt us with each new attack,
But our loving father and husband is finally back.”

They held hands, and we joined them next to the tree.
Dad held Mom close, looking at Sissy and me.

He told us the tall spruce didn’t get big in a year,
One day in a forest it just didn’t appear.

It started with what every strong spruce tree needs.
It started with a tiny, little spruce tree seed.

It grew its roots deep while branching up to the sky.
It grew strong and mighty, each day by and by.

“So this New Life Christmas, my vow to
 the three of you.
I will grow deep in our God who loves me, and you, too!

“And I promise each day to reach high for God’s power.
I love my New Life and I won’t waste an hour.

“There will be tough times and rough times and even some sorrows,
But they will never again define our tomorrows.

“Now you little ones, let me tuck you in bed snug and tight.
You know you must sleep if Santa’s to show up tonight.”

So I waited and waited ‘til Sissy wouldn’t hear,
Then I pulled Dad down close, and I whispered in his ear,

“Dad, I’m not waiting for an unknown Santa to appear
Because for the first time in my life he’s here—really here!

Well, that’s how it happened as best I remember,
That year when all changed, in the month of December.

I always smile when I think of those days,
But sorrow and sadness sneak in other ways.

Because for too many children, Christmas will never be
A Celebration of New Life like ‘twas for Sissy and me.

Lives remain nightmares—seeming far beyond hope.
Dads or moms won’t get help so the kids must cope.

But they’ll get by and beyond it as most people do,
When the sick remain sick
 though all things could be made new.

And until all is made new, if we are blessed to exist,
New Life will be here with God’s hope to assist.

Satan continues to rob, steal and plunder,
But seven magical letters dialed become seven transforming numbers.

If your family is hurting and you’re hurting, too
Pick up the phone, the magic letters are for you.

800-NEW-LIFE, it’s so simple to dial,
And we know that the call will be well worth your while!

Stephen Arterburn   800 NewLife

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