New Life Live: July 22, 2014

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Topics: Weight IssuesAffairsTrustForgivenessDatingPornography 
Host: Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions:

  1. Your Lose It For Life Workshop helped me to connect! 
  2. My wife and I drive a truck and I cheated on her one year ago; how do I regain her trust? 
  3. How can I get over the hurt of my husband’s affairs, back when he got us into swinging? 
  4. Since my ex was a pastor who had affairs; is it OK for me to date a wonderful non-Christian man? 
  5. My separated husband is into male porn and is having an emotional affair; should I reconcile or quit the marriage? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Is This The One

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New Life Live: July 21, 2014

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Topics: MarriageSexual FantasySelf WorthDatingPornography 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Henry CloudDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. What a great experience at the Marriage Solution Workshop! 
  2. I am married; why do I fixate on a man at church? 
  3. Thank you for the good help you gave my wife at the Healing Is a Choice Workshop! 
  4. How do I move past a sexual relationship toward marriage with a man who fathered my child? 
  5. The Marriage Solution Workshop saved my marriage! I found porn on his phone a few days before. 

Suggested Resources:
Never Go Back
7 Minute Marriage Solution
How We Love

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New Life Live: July 16, 2014

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Topics: Adult ChildrenDivorceDatingChurch LifeSinglesTrustSexual Integrity
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I respond to my 26yo daughter telling me she is in a polyamorous relationship with two guys? 
  2. Can I divorce and still live a godly life? 
  3. My ex-boyfriend is in church leadership; should I warn them about him? 
  4. I am 41yrs old and feel guilty chatting with guys on Facebook. 
  5. How can I get my wife to trust me and get over my emotional affair? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
How We Love
Secrets Women Keep
Rethink How You Think

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Listening To Guilt

Listening To Guilt

There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. - Romans 8:1 NKJV

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All of us have made mistakes. Sometimes, we are swept up by events that encourage us to behave in ways that we later come to regret. And sometimes, even when our intentions are honorable, we make errors in judgment that have long-lasting consequences. When we look back at our actions with remorse, we may experience intense feelings of guilt. But God has an answer for the guilt that we feel. That answer is His forgiveness.

Sometimes, long after God has forgiven us, we may continue to withhold forgiveness from ourselves. Instead of accepting God’s mercy and accepting our past, we may think far too long and hard about the things that ‘might have been,’ the things that ‘could have been,’ or the things that ‘should have been.’

Are you troubled by feelings of guilt, even after you’ve received God’s forgiveness? Are you still struggling with painful memories of mistakes you made long ago? Are you focused so intently on yesterday that your vision of today is clouded? If so, you still have work to do’spiritual work. You should ask your Heavenly Father not for forgiveness (He granted that gift the very first time you asked Him!) but instead for acceptance and trust: acceptance of the past and trust in God’s plan for your life.

If you find yourself plagued by feelings of guilt or shame, consult God’s survival guide: His Holy Word. And as you do so, consider the following Biblically-based tips for overcoming those feelings of guilt once and for all:

1. Stop doing the things that make you feel guilty: How can you expect not to feel guilty if you should feel guilty? (Acts 26:20)
2. Ask God for forgiveness. When you ask for it, He will give it. (1 John 1:9)
3. Ask forgiveness from the people you have harmed: This step is hard, but helpful. And even if the other folks cannot find it in their hearts to forgive you, you have the satisfaction of knowing that you asked. (Proverbs 28:13)
4. Forgive yourself: if you’re no longer misbehaving, it’s the right thing to do. And today is the right day to do it. (Romans 14:22)
5. Become more diligent in your daily time of prayer and Bible study. A regular time of quiet reflection and prayer will allow you to praise your Creator, to focus your thoughts, to remind yourself of His love, and to seek His guidance in matters great and small. (Isaiah 50:45)
6. Get busy making the world a better place. Now that God has forgiven you, it’s time for you to show your gratitude by serving Him. (Matthew 23:11-12)

Guilt is a gift that leads us to grace. - Franklin Graham

Today’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, help me to forgive myself as you forgive me. Amen.

 

 

New Life Live: July 15, 2014

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Topics: DatingAbandonmentDivorceGriefFriendshipsSexual IntegrityMarriage 
Hosts: Steve Arterburn and Guest Host Marilyn Meberg

Caller Questions:

  1. My girlfriend goes out with her ex and then denies it; do I move on? 
  2. Why does my childhood abandonment affect my relationship with people today? 
  3. I divorced my alcoholic husband; why did I not experience grief when he died? 
  4. How do I support my friend who has a sexually addicted husband? 
  5. Should I stay with my verbally abusive husband? 
  6. I never met my father; why do I still struggle today with abandonment? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Healing Is a Choice
Constantly Craving

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New Life Live: July 11, 2014

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Topics: Church LifeLyingMarriageForgivenessAffairsParenting 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnMilan Yerkovich and Guest Host Shannon Ethridge

Caller Questions:

  1. Is it harmful for my church to study world religions? 
  2. As a pastor, how can I deal with the politics of getting assigned to a church? 
  3. Do you think my pathological liar husband has a deeper mental issue? 
  4. I forgave my husband for his affair, but now I can’t stand hearing her name, “Joy.” 
  5. How can my husband and I stop arguing about my 16yo son? 

Suggested Resources:
More Jesus, Less Religion
Toxic Faith
How We Love
Forgiving the Unforgivable

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New Life Live: July 10, 2014

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Topics: DatingMarriageParentingIntimacyChristian WalkAddictionsAdult Children
Hosts: Steve Arterburn and Guest Hosts Marilyn Meberg and Shannon Ethridge

Caller Questions:

  1. Should I put off my wedding to someone who is defiant, swears, and thinks differently than I do? 
  2. My disengaged husband always runs home to his mother. 
  3. If the Bible is against an issue, why do Christians debate it? 
  4. Comment: A husband and wife need to teach their kids about issues like homosexuality.
  5. Comment: A couple should spend time before marriage discussing issues and how you would teach them to your kids. 
  6. Does God expect me to keep a relationship with my 25yo son who is involved with drugs? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Being Christian by Stephen Arterburn   (available from Amazon.com)
Boundaries

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Nuclear Physics

On the show today, Steve Arterburn mentioned that the producer of our New Life TV channel challenged John Townsend and himself  to do a segment on nuclear physics. Check it out! Click on the image below to watch:

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New Life Live: July 9, 2014

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Topics: NarcissistsMarriageParentingSexual IntegritySexual Addiction
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Sheri Denham

Caller Questions:

  1. What advice is there to help my marriage to a narcissist husband? 
  2. We married after a baby was conceived; then she told me it may not be mine. 
  3. Comment: My husband had the same issue and accepted the baby as his own. 
  4. Should my wife be my accountability partner for my sexual addiction? 

Suggested Resources:
Life Recovery Bible
Book of Life Recovery
Every Man’s Battle

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New Life Live: July 8, 2014

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Topics: AffairsSeparationGriefForgivenessChristian WalkFather IssuesSelf-worth 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John Townsend

Caller Questions:

  1. My wife had an affair 2yrs ago and now she is hostile and sarcastic; what can a godly man do? 
  2. How do I move on after 4yrs of separation from my husband who lives with the other woman? 
  3. What kind of man gets remarried within months of our divorce? 
  4. Is God hiding His face from me like in Psalm 13:1? 
  5. In Reframe Your Life, can you elaborate on healing from a controlling dad? 
  6. How can I balance being overly critical of myself after an abusive dating relationship? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Healing Is a Choice
Where is God  (available from Cloud-Townsend)
Forgiving Our Parents

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