New Life Live: July 16, 2014

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Topics: Adult ChildrenDivorceDatingChurch LifeSinglesTrustSexual Integrity
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I respond to my 26yo daughter telling me she is in a polyamorous relationship with two guys? 
  2. Can I divorce and still live a godly life? 
  3. My ex-boyfriend is in church leadership; should I warn them about him? 
  4. I am 41yrs old and feel guilty chatting with guys on Facebook. 
  5. How can I get my wife to trust me and get over my emotional affair? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
How We Love
Secrets Women Keep
Rethink How You Think

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Listening To Guilt

Listening To Guilt

There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. - Romans 8:1 NKJV

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All of us have made mistakes. Sometimes, we are swept up by events that encourage us to behave in ways that we later come to regret. And sometimes, even when our intentions are honorable, we make errors in judgment that have long-lasting consequences. When we look back at our actions with remorse, we may experience intense feelings of guilt. But God has an answer for the guilt that we feel. That answer is His forgiveness.

Sometimes, long after God has forgiven us, we may continue to withhold forgiveness from ourselves. Instead of accepting God’s mercy and accepting our past, we may think far too long and hard about the things that ‘might have been,’ the things that ‘could have been,’ or the things that ‘should have been.’

Are you troubled by feelings of guilt, even after you’ve received God’s forgiveness? Are you still struggling with painful memories of mistakes you made long ago? Are you focused so intently on yesterday that your vision of today is clouded? If so, you still have work to do’spiritual work. You should ask your Heavenly Father not for forgiveness (He granted that gift the very first time you asked Him!) but instead for acceptance and trust: acceptance of the past and trust in God’s plan for your life.

If you find yourself plagued by feelings of guilt or shame, consult God’s survival guide: His Holy Word. And as you do so, consider the following Biblically-based tips for overcoming those feelings of guilt once and for all:

1. Stop doing the things that make you feel guilty: How can you expect not to feel guilty if you should feel guilty? (Acts 26:20)
2. Ask God for forgiveness. When you ask for it, He will give it. (1 John 1:9)
3. Ask forgiveness from the people you have harmed: This step is hard, but helpful. And even if the other folks cannot find it in their hearts to forgive you, you have the satisfaction of knowing that you asked. (Proverbs 28:13)
4. Forgive yourself: if you’re no longer misbehaving, it’s the right thing to do. And today is the right day to do it. (Romans 14:22)
5. Become more diligent in your daily time of prayer and Bible study. A regular time of quiet reflection and prayer will allow you to praise your Creator, to focus your thoughts, to remind yourself of His love, and to seek His guidance in matters great and small. (Isaiah 50:45)
6. Get busy making the world a better place. Now that God has forgiven you, it’s time for you to show your gratitude by serving Him. (Matthew 23:11-12)

Guilt is a gift that leads us to grace. - Franklin Graham

Today’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, help me to forgive myself as you forgive me. Amen.

 

 

New Life Live: July 15, 2014

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Topics: DatingAbandonmentDivorceGriefFriendshipsSexual IntegrityMarriage 
Hosts: Steve Arterburn and Guest Host Marilyn Meberg

Caller Questions:

  1. My girlfriend goes out with her ex and then denies it; do I move on? 
  2. Why does my childhood abandonment affect my relationship with people today? 
  3. I divorced my alcoholic husband; why did I not experience grief when he died? 
  4. How do I support my friend who has a sexually addicted husband? 
  5. Should I stay with my verbally abusive husband? 
  6. I never met my father; why do I still struggle today with abandonment? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
Healing Is a Choice
Constantly Craving

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New Life Live: July 11, 2014

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Topics: Church LifeLyingMarriageForgivenessAffairsParenting 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnMilan Yerkovich and Guest Host Shannon Ethridge

Caller Questions:

  1. Is it harmful for my church to study world religions? 
  2. As a pastor, how can I deal with the politics of getting assigned to a church? 
  3. Do you think my pathological liar husband has a deeper mental issue? 
  4. I forgave my husband for his affair, but now I can’t stand hearing her name, “Joy.” 
  5. How can my husband and I stop arguing about my 16yo son? 

Suggested Resources:
More Jesus, Less Religion
Toxic Faith
How We Love
Forgiving the Unforgivable

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New Life Live: July 10, 2014

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Topics: DatingMarriageParentingIntimacyChristian WalkAddictionsAdult Children
Hosts: Steve Arterburn and Guest Hosts Marilyn Meberg and Shannon Ethridge

Caller Questions:

  1. Should I put off my wedding to someone who is defiant, swears, and thinks differently than I do? 
  2. My disengaged husband always runs home to his mother. 
  3. If the Bible is against an issue, why do Christians debate it? 
  4. Comment: A husband and wife need to teach their kids about issues like homosexuality.
  5. Comment: A couple should spend time before marriage discussing issues and how you would teach them to your kids. 
  6. Does God expect me to keep a relationship with my 25yo son who is involved with drugs? 

Suggested Resources:
Is This The One
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Being Christian by Stephen Arterburn   (available from Amazon.com)
Boundaries

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Nuclear Physics

On the show today, Steve Arterburn mentioned that the producer of our New Life TV channel challenged John Townsend and himself  to do a segment on nuclear physics. Check it out! Click on the image below to watch:

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New Life Live: July 9, 2014

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Topics: NarcissistsMarriageParentingSexual IntegritySexual Addiction
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John TownsendDr. Sheri Denham

Caller Questions:

  1. What advice is there to help my marriage to a narcissist husband? 
  2. We married after a baby was conceived; then she told me it may not be mine. 
  3. Comment: My husband had the same issue and accepted the baby as his own. 
  4. Should my wife be my accountability partner for my sexual addiction? 

Suggested Resources:
Life Recovery Bible
Book of Life Recovery
Every Man’s Battle

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New Life Live: July 8, 2014

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Topics: AffairsSeparationGriefForgivenessChristian WalkFather IssuesSelf-worth 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. John Townsend

Caller Questions:

  1. My wife had an affair 2yrs ago and now she is hostile and sarcastic; what can a godly man do? 
  2. How do I move on after 4yrs of separation from my husband who lives with the other woman? 
  3. What kind of man gets remarried within months of our divorce? 
  4. Is God hiding His face from me like in Psalm 13:1? 
  5. In Reframe Your Life, can you elaborate on healing from a controlling dad? 
  6. How can I balance being overly critical of myself after an abusive dating relationship? 

Suggested Resources:
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Healing Is a Choice
Where is God  (available from Cloud-Townsend)
Forgiving Our Parents

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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing 

On the radio today, Steve Arterburn mentioned EMDR and how it can help those who have suffered extreme trauma. EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is an amazing psychotherapy approach and in the segment below Dr. Sheri Keffer and Dr. Curt Rouanzoin get together to explain what it is and how it works. Click on the image to watch now!

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Counting Your Blessings

Counting Your Blessings

Blessings crown the head of the righteous . . . Proverbs 10:6 NIV

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Because we have been so richly blessed, we should make thanksgiving a habit, a regular part of our daily routines. But sometimes, amid the stresses and obligations of everyday life, we may allow interruptions and distractions to interfere with the time we spend with God.

Have you counted your blessings today? And have you thanked God for them? Hopefully so. After all, God’s gifts include your family, your friends, your talents, your opportunities, your possessions, and the priceless gift of eternal life. How glorious are these gifts . . . and God is responsible for every one of them.

So today, as you go about the duties of everyday life, pause and give thanks to the Creator. He deserves your praise, and you deserve the experience of praising Him.

God’s kindness is not like the sunset—brilliant in its intensity, but dying every second. God’s generosity keeps coming and coming and coming.   ~Bill Hybels

When you and I are related to Jesus Christ, our strength and wisdom and peace and joy and love and hope may run out, but His life rushes in to keep us filled to the brim. We are showered with blessings, not because of anything we have or have not done, but simply because of Him. ~Anne Graham Lotz

Do we not continually pass by blessings innumerable without notice, and instead fix our eyes on what we feel to be our trials and our losses, and think and talk about these until our whole horizon is filled with them, and we almost begin to think we have no blessings at all? ~Hannah Whitall Smith

TODAY’S PRAYER
Lord, I have more blessings than I can count, and I praise You for Your gifts. Let me use my talents and my possessions for  Your glory . . . and for Your Son. Amen