New Life Live: August 14, 2015

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Topics: Encouragement, Grief, Affairs, Separation, Abortion
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer

Caller Questions:

  1. Comment: I can now express my feelings thanks to all of my grief work and men’s groups.
  2. Comment: God was able to use my pain after my wife’s betrayal.
  3. I left with the kids last week after my husband kicked us out; should I reach out to him?
  4. Interview with Jeff Gilbert from the ministry SaveTheStorks.com reaching out to pregnant women at risk for abortion.

Suggested Resources:
Life Recovery Bible
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Healing Is a Choice
Emotionally Destructive Relationship

This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today:

I was a recovering alcoholic before I was a sex addict, so I was familiar with the way the addiction process works in the mind. But, I have never had it put to me in a more understandable way than Jason presented it at this workshop. I also believe in any recovery, Christ must be the center of the program and with EMB, He is. The washing away of our sins with the blood of Christ on Saturday night was probably the most moving thing I have ever done. May God continue to bless New Life Ministries. – Jon

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Is Sex Addiction Like Alcoholism?

In this segment of “Ask Me Anything”, Julie wrote in with a questions regarding sexual addiction and alcoholism. She is wondering if these addictions have similar traits. So, Dr. Dave Stoop is answering Julie’s inquiry and explaining how these addictions can manifest themselves in your life, and what she, and all of us, can do to work on them! Click here to watch the video.

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Being A Lifer

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

Being A Lifer

The Christian life is a journey where we get to exercise our faith and our obedience to God’s principles for living. There will be times when you grow  weary, times when you want to throw in the towel. You’ll experience pain, fear, and every imaginable emotion. You’ll win some battles but lose others.

You may get discouraged at times when you don’t see the progress you’d like despite your diligence. But if you persevere through it all, you’ll honor God and find a life worth living.

The apostle Paul’s words to the young disciple, Timothy, tell us a thing or two about perseverance. “Endure suffering along with me,” said Paul, “as a good soldier of Christ Jesus. And as Christ’s soldier, do not let yourself become tied up in the affairs of this life, for then you cannot satisfy the one who has enlisted you in his army. Follow the Lord’s rules for doing his work, just as an athlete either follows the rules or is disqualified and wins no prize. Hardworking farmers are the first to enjoy the fruit of their labor.” (2 Timothy 2:3-6)

Have you ever thought of yourself as a soldier? or as a trained and skilled athlete? Soldier’s and athletes are disciplined; no cheating and no cutting corners. And like farmers, you work, then wait patiently to reap the benefits of your labor.

– Steve Arterburn

It takes 20 years to make an overnight success.” – Eddie Cantor (1892–1964)

Work In Progress

You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love. – Galatians 5:13

Work In Progress

I don’t know whether this is true in your part of the country, but here in Southern California almost any business will hire guys to stand on the sidewalk and hold a sign advertising their store. Most signs are painted brightly and are shaped like an arrow, pointing the way toward the supposedly “best deal” in town.

Now when it comes to the sidewalks of life, we should probably each be wearing a sandwich board that reads in bold letters, “Work in Progress Here.” I know that’s been the case for me. Whatever season of life you find yourself in, being in Christ means you are a constant work in progress.

And, just like someone wearing a sandwich board would attest, being in Christ and therefore a work in progress can be tiring, frustrating, and even embarrassing. In short: it requires both endurance and humility. But as a follower of Christ, this is the job you signed on for.

Though the work may not be easy, the benefits are outstanding. For there are very few things in this world comparable to the daily thrill of learning to love and serve Christ by loving and serving others.

– Steve Arterburn

Give the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world your best anyway.” – Mother Theresa (1910–1997)

Work Ethic

Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. – Proverbs 31:31

Work Ethic

Are you feeling worn out? Are you using that worn out feeling as an excuse for not doing the things you know you should be doing? There’s a story of a Harvard University freshman who was late handing in an assignment. He came to his professor’s office to explain:

“I’m sorry, sir,” he said, “but I wasn’t feeling well.” The Dean replied, “Young man, please bear in mind that by far the greater part of the world’s work is carried on by people who are not feeling very well.

Isn’t that the truth? Who have you encountered that went the extra mile in spite of feeling less than 100%? A parent? a fellow worker? A community leader? A friend at church?

Are you lacking motivation, energy, or drive? Don’t wait on your feelings. Act and see if you don’t feel better.

Steve Arterburn

“Leaders aren’t born, they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work. And that’s the price we’ll have to pay to achieve that goal . . . or any  goal.” – Vince Lombardi (1913-1970)

 

New Life Live: May 15, 2015

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Topics: MarriageEating DisordersChurch LifeForgiveness 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave StoopDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. After 4mos of marriage, my husband says it will not work and wants out. 
  2. I am in a support group for over eating and am struggling; what else can I do? 
  3. After being betrayed by two churches, is it OK with God that I stopped going? 
  4. How can I deal with my new husband who thinks he is perfect and everything is my fault? 

Suggested Resources:
Secrets Women Keep
How We Love
Forgiving the Unforgivable

This is the Healing is a Choice testimony Steve read on the radio today –

Before coming to this workshop, I just felt empty. I wouldn’t talk about my sexual abuse, and I felt alone and that no one understood. This weekend has connected me with other women who have been through similar things. I now feel like I am not alone and I want to continue healing not only for me, but for them as well. I am leaving Healing is a Choice with tools to continue healing and goals for what I want for my life. I feel hopeful that I can give God all of me and that no matter how broken I have been God can use me. I would tell anyone to definitely come to this workshop. The small groups really help you to connect with people and to feel secure and hopeful for what God has planned for your life. – Carrie

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New Life Live: April 29, 2015

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Topics: ForgivenessAdult ChildrenBoundariesAngerMarriageAffairs 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill HubbardMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Is there a Scripture that commands us to forgive ourselves? 
  2. I have been depressed since my two adult sons moved back home; do I need a plan? 
  3. How do I cope with my husband who is angry about me returning to work? 
  4. How can I repair my marriage after my adultery? 

Suggested Resources:
Every Man’s Battle
Boundaries
Anger Workbook
Worthy of Her Trust

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The Strangeness of God

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. – Isaiah 55:8-9

The Strangeness of God

Disruptive peace; majestic meekness; unsettling comfort, these phrases don’t seem to make sense. But anyone who’s had a personal encounter with God understands that these apparent paradoxes come together in Him.

The Dean of the Chapel of Calvin College, wrote, ‘The faithful evangelical preacher of God ought to say not only that God is great and God is good, but also that God is elusive and God is strange, because spiritual health depends upon it.

It’s dangerous to think we know God’s mind, God’s will, or God’s intentions. In fact, to fear God is, in part, to recognize that His ways are not our ways. For certain, He’s revealed Himself to us in Jesus, and He revealed Himself in how He moved and worked through the lives and stories recorded in the Bible. But He hasn’t revealed Himself exhaustively. He hasn’t ceased to work in mysterious ways. And that’s why we surrender to Him. He’s greater than we can think or imagine and will work in strange ways, ways we can’t even think of or imagine.

– Steve Arterburn

I have felt His hand upon me in great trials and submitted to His guidance, and I trust that as He shall further open the way, I will be ready to walk therein, relying on His help and trusting in His goodness and wisdom.’ – Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

New Life Live: February 24, 2015

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Topics: Verbal AbuseParent IssuesForgivenessDivorceDatingSexual Integrity 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Sheri Keffer and Guest Host Leslie Vernick, author of The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

Caller Questions:

  1. How do I deal with my verbally abusive 92yo father? 
  2. My mom is angry that I didn’t support her in a conflict with my grandmother. 
  3. How do I move forward and make my own decisions after my 30yr marriage ended? 
  4. My mom wants to marry a man she met online and has not met in person; how do I respond? 
  5. My wife doesn’t want to work on her trust issues after I had lust issues; is it time to give up? 

Suggested Resources:
Emotionally Destructive Relationship
Hope & Healing from Emotional Abuse
Worthy of Her Trust

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Reframing Our Work

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – 1 Corinthians 10:31

Reframing Our Work

Too often we view our work as a curse rather than a divine calling. Renowned author Dorothy Sayers is precisely right in observing that we need ‘a thoroughgoing revolution in our whole attitude to work.’ Namely, that our work should be viewed not as a necessary drudgery to be undergone for the purpose of making money, but as a way of life in which we find personal delight and magnify God’s glory. Sayers believes work, ‘should be thought of as a creative activity undertaken for the love of the work itself; and that. . . [men and women], made in God’s image, should make things, as God makes them, for the sake of doing well a thing that is well worth doing.’

With the right attitude your work can be a source of personal blessing and a vehicle for glorifying God.

– Steve Arterburn

Train yourself to recognize the hand of God in everything that happens to you.’ – Andrew Murray (1828-1917)