Calling

Whatever you do, do well. For when you go to the grave, there will be no work or planning or knowledge or wisdom – Ecclesiastes 9:10

Whether you receive a paycheck or emotional reward for your job, can you honestly say that God has directed you to your present work? Did you seek his guidance before or since taking your present job or position? If not, perhaps it’s time you did! You may find that he directed your path without your knowledge, or you might discover that he has some other work in mind for you.

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How do we find the work that God wants us to do? First, we should take stock of our gifts and abilities. Most people enjoy doing things that exercise their gifts. Second, we can ask friends, coworkers, and family members if they have any particular feeling about what kind of work we might enjoy. Finally, we can take a test such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Don’t worry, it isn’t the kind of test you can pass or fail, but you can gain insights into the way you were created, and you’ll understand why certain types of work will suit you better than others.

As one man said, ‘Religious activity, Bible study, our personal devotions must be a preparation, not a substitution, for dealing with pivotal choices facing all of us: What am I giving my life to? Do my goals, ambitions, and values reflect the beliefs I espouse? How much of what I consider important does God consider valuable in light of eternity.’

Excerpted from “Flashpoints” by Steve Arterburn

Serving

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. – Colossians 3:23-24

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At the heart of the Civil War was a large portion of free people who concluded that slavery shouldn’t be. Colonel Joshua L. Chamberlain was one of those men. In the movie Gettysburg he says, ‘This is a different kind of army. If you look back through history, you’ll see men fighting for pay, for women, for some other kind of loot. They fight for land, power, because a king leads them, or just because they like killing. But we are here for something new. This has not happened much in the history of the world. We are an army out to set other men free.’

Throughout history, God has been calling men and women to give of themselves so others can be free. Are you willing to make sacrifices for others?

Steve Arterburn

‘For anything worth having one must pay the price; and the price is always work, patience, love, self-sacrifice ‘ no paper currency, no promises to pay, but the gold of real service.’ – John Burroughs (1837-1921)

New Life Live: September 1, 2014

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Topics: MarriageFriendshipBipolarEmotional AbuseFear & Anxiety 
Hosts: Steve Arterburn and Guest Host Marilyn Meberg

Caller Questions:

  1. My husband will not ask for insurance coverage at work and I feel slighted. 
  2. How do I find direction after betrayal? 
  3. Is there a way to help heal a relationship between my friend and her daughter? 
  4. What therapy options are available for my daughter’s bipolar boyfriend? 
  5. I am separated from my emotionally abusive husband; why do I feel guilty and fearful? 

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New Life Marriage Weekend Workshop Testimony

Marriage Weekend Testimony

Before this weekend, my marriage was in crisis mode. Communication was non-existent and my husband and I were each holding on to so much pride and bitterness that we were stuck and unwilling to move forward. We did not leave any room for God to work in the marriage.

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This weekend has been transformational. We have let go of anger, bitterness, and self-righteousness. We have committed to moving forward and using all the skills and techniques to do the hard work in order to have the marriage that God desires for us.

I leave here with hope that we are both willing to stop doing all the old patterns and sinful behaviors that were destroying our marriage and do the work to let God transform the marriage and make it in to what he wants. It’s going to be hard work but now we both have a spirit of willingness to do that work. This weekend will give you completely new ways and tools to use to break all your old patterns. It gives a completely new framework for marriage. ~ Betsey

Temptations Everywhere

Temptations Everywhere

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. - 1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV

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If you stop to think about it, the cold, hard evidence is right in front of your eyes: you live in a temptation-filled world. The devil is out on the street, hard at work, causing pain, stress, and heartache in more ways than ever before. Here in the 21st century, the bad guys are working around the clock to lead you astray. That’s why you must remain vigilant.

In a letter to believers, Peter offered a stern warning: “Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8 NASB). What was true in New Testament times is equally true in our own. Satan tempts his prey and then devours them. As believing Christians, we must beware. And, if we seek righteousness in our own lives, we must earnestly wrap ourselves in the protection of God’s Holy Word. When we do, we are secure.

In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus went through agony of soul in His efforts to resist the temptation to do what He felt like doing rather than what He knew was God’s will for Him. ~Joyce Meyer

Temptation is not a sin. Even Jesus was tempted. The Lord Jesus gives you the strength needed to resist temptation. ~Corrie Ten Boom

TODAY’S PRAYER
Lord, life is filled with temptations to stray from your chosen path. But, I face no temptation that You have not already met and conquered through my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, the One who empowers me with His strength and His love. Amen

Listening To Guilt

Listening To Guilt

There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. - Romans 8:1 NKJV

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All of us have made mistakes. Sometimes, we are swept up by events that encourage us to behave in ways that we later come to regret. And sometimes, even when our intentions are honorable, we make errors in judgment that have long-lasting consequences. When we look back at our actions with remorse, we may experience intense feelings of guilt. But God has an answer for the guilt that we feel. That answer is His forgiveness.

Sometimes, long after God has forgiven us, we may continue to withhold forgiveness from ourselves. Instead of accepting God’s mercy and accepting our past, we may think far too long and hard about the things that ‘might have been,’ the things that ‘could have been,’ or the things that ‘should have been.’

Are you troubled by feelings of guilt, even after you’ve received God’s forgiveness? Are you still struggling with painful memories of mistakes you made long ago? Are you focused so intently on yesterday that your vision of today is clouded? If so, you still have work to do’spiritual work. You should ask your Heavenly Father not for forgiveness (He granted that gift the very first time you asked Him!) but instead for acceptance and trust: acceptance of the past and trust in God’s plan for your life.

If you find yourself plagued by feelings of guilt or shame, consult God’s survival guide: His Holy Word. And as you do so, consider the following Biblically-based tips for overcoming those feelings of guilt once and for all:

1. Stop doing the things that make you feel guilty: How can you expect not to feel guilty if you should feel guilty? (Acts 26:20)
2. Ask God for forgiveness. When you ask for it, He will give it. (1 John 1:9)
3. Ask forgiveness from the people you have harmed: This step is hard, but helpful. And even if the other folks cannot find it in their hearts to forgive you, you have the satisfaction of knowing that you asked. (Proverbs 28:13)
4. Forgive yourself: if you’re no longer misbehaving, it’s the right thing to do. And today is the right day to do it. (Romans 14:22)
5. Become more diligent in your daily time of prayer and Bible study. A regular time of quiet reflection and prayer will allow you to praise your Creator, to focus your thoughts, to remind yourself of His love, and to seek His guidance in matters great and small. (Isaiah 50:45)
6. Get busy making the world a better place. Now that God has forgiven you, it’s time for you to show your gratitude by serving Him. (Matthew 23:11-12)

Guilt is a gift that leads us to grace. - Franklin Graham

Today’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, help me to forgive myself as you forgive me. Amen.

 

 

This Workshop helped me be a better Relator

This Workshop helped me be a better Relator

Marriage WorkshopMy life before this marriage weekend was horrible. I avoided all issues and tried to to please my wife in ways other than on a relational and emotional level. I wanted to spend more time at work rather than deal with my wife at home. This marriage weekend has taught me better ways to communicate and relate to my wife, and how to comfort her. I also learned how to release and open up. Anyone considering this marriage workshop should definitely go to this life altering weekend. – Mike

 

 

The Avoider

Stress, Intimacy and Attachment Styles – The Avoider

In Part 2 of our series on “Turning Stress into Opportunities For Intimacy,” Kay & Milan Yerkovich, authors of How We Love, share personal experiences that help define ‘THE AVOIDER’ and teach us how to work with it. Click on the image below to watch.

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Sloth Destroys Character

Sloth Destroys Character

But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. - Philippians 3:13-14 NIV

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If you’d like a surefire formula for tearing down your character, here it is: do everything you can to avoid doing an honest day’s work. But if you’d like a proven formula for building character, do your work with vigor, dedication, and enthusiasm.

You’ve probably heard the advice since you were a child: ‘Give the boss an honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay.’ But sometimes, you’ll be tempted to do otherwise. Why? For starters, no job is perfect’and that means that your job isn’t perfect, either. So, from time to time, you’ll probably become upset with your job, and it is during these times, when you’re frustrated or upset, that you’ll be tempted to gripe, to waste time, and to do little else. Avoid these temptations they’re self-destructive.

Even if you’re planning on quitting your job tomorrow, give your boss a full day’s work today. Otherwise, you’ll be developing a very bad habit: the habit of giving less than 100%. It’s a character- destroying trait, an easy habit to acquire and a difficult habit to break.

If you’re looking for folks to waste time with, you can probably find them just about anywhere’including your workplace. But if you’re looking for a meaningful life (not to mention a career that you love), make up your mind to be the kind of person whose work speaks (in glowing terms) for itself. When you do, you’ll discover that when you give your best, you enjoy work the most.

The worst thing that laziness does is rob a man of spiritual purpose. Billy Graham

The only cure for laziness is to be filled with the life of God. Oswald Chambers

Work is such a beautiful and helpful thing, and independence so delightful that I wonder why there are any lazy people in the world. Louisa May Alcott

 

Ten Things I Want Every Survivor of Abuse to Know

Ten Things I Want Every Survivor of Abuse to Know

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1. You are older, wiser, stronger and safer now.

2. Forgiveness is a path you must eventually travel down.

3. As it says in Mathew 18:10 – God was aware of your abuse.

4. The person who abused you does not represent others in your life today.

5. Grief work is a huge part of abuse recovery.

6. If you have a tendency to become an abuser, although it would seem to be unlikely, it’s a sign that further work is needed.

7. It was not your fault in any way.

8. Turn things around as soon as you can so you can help others (but see number 9)

9. Give yourself plenty of time to heal.

10. You are not damaged goods. You are pure and clean in the eyes of God.

Bonus Point: We love you here at New Life.