You must acknowledge the addiction exists.
Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” (Proverbs 28:13, NIV).
You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong.
Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. “For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.” (I John 2:16).
You must not blame others.
“If my wife/husband were just more affectionate.” “If women/men were not so seductive.” Adam blamed Eve, and she blamed the serpent. Instead, you must begin to take responsibility for your own actions.
Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority.
Everybody needs a safe person to share their struggles with, perhaps a pastor or mature believer. “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16).
You must recognize that “will power” is not the answer.
At a weak moment, your “will” may fail you. By admitting that you are in need of God’s help, you open access to His supernatural intervention in your life. You must yield your will to God’s will. That’s when He can begin a new work in your life.
Study the Word of God concerning sexual purity.
“Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.” (James 1:21).
You must destroy any pornography in your possession.
You can’t wean yourself off pornography. Think of the hidden pornography in your home as a ticking time bomb that will ultimately destroy your family.
You must learn to flee temptation.
Self-deception may enter when you think you can play with fire without getting burned. “Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in the way of evildoers.” (Proverbs 4:14, 15).
Give yourself time to work through the process of recovery.
More often than not, God chooses to take us through a learning and growing process that can be very painful. Victory over addiction should be viewed as a marathon, not a sprint.
You must approach your addiction one day at a time.
Look for little victories, and rejoice in the progress you’re making. “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:14).