Imagine you are sitting in a group of men. You have been asked to be honest with this group of men and they have been asked to be honest with you. Then the question comes up, have you acted on a desire to masturbate this week? You feel it deep in the pit of your stomach. It’s that urge to bury it, to hide, to play it cool and hope nobody notices you shifting in your seat. You know you need to be honest to get anything out of this group. You’ve even asked them to ask you this question. You just never expected to have to answer with a yes. Continue reading
In order to stay ‘in the fight’ for the long haul and be successful, you have to connect with others. For most of us, we may have the hunger and desire to connect, but struggle with HOW we do that especially when we’re in the midst of temptation.
It’s rather ironic that the Internet is about connecting people to each other, and it can be such a great tool for doing just that. But like any powerful tools, its purpose can be corrupted to the opposite extreme.
So many of the people I work with have found isolation and avoidance of interpersonal connections through the Internet. It’s amazing how subtle and desirable a substitute for the real can be.
“Who is SAFE?”
So, how do we go about making quality connection so that we can fight being in the battle alone? One of the first questions you must ask is: ‘Who is safe?’ The problem is that for many of us, we don’t even know what the word ‘safe’ means in regards to relationships. Professionals, who are bound by confidentiality are usually safe. But there are many others too. To understand what makes for safety in a relationship that will move you toward health and healing, think of a safe spot that you may have in your home. It’s a place where you place valuable things and know they will stay there protected. You’ll want to apply this same principle to your struggle. Look for who you can tell the ‘good, bad, and ugly’ stories to and be rest assured that they will stay ‘safe!’ It’s by communicating these personal stories that each of us can find freedom from many of the lies that Satan would have us believe about ourselves.
Make the Accountability Connection Work for You
Being connected to someone for accountability means that they will know what questions to ask you, because they will know your weaknesses. But to help make the accountability connection work for you, ask your partner to do the following:
- Call you every day (or whatever the two of you work out between you).
- Ask you ‘How you are feeling.’
- Then ask you, ‘Now, how are you REALLY feeling!?’
- Ask you ‘What do you have planned today to build the life God wants for you?’
- Ask you, ‘Who are you resenting, angry at? Where do you feel out of control?’
- Ask you, ‘Where is the greatest point of desperation in your life?
- Connecting with someone who will ask you these questions and encourage you in your life’s journey will change your life. If finding a trustworthy confidant is tough for you, we’d like to help.
Call us today on 800-NEW-LIFE (639-5433).
It’s easy to say you love God but how do you show it? God’s hoping you’ll show it by loving other people. In fact, God has so intertwined your love for Him with love for others that when you seek and surrender to Him, He requires that you give up your hatred and prejudice.
In first John chapter four, the apostle John wrote: ‘God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them’If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we have not seen? God himself has commanded that we must love not only him but our Christian brothers and sisters, too.’
Men, God simply doesn’t give us the option of hating our brothers and sisters while loving Him. In fact, He doesn’t even give you the option of hating your enemies. Jesus said, ‘But if you are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Pray for the happiness of those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you’ (Luke 6:27-28). Boy, that’s a revolutionary kind of love.
The bottom line is this: surrendering to God means surrendering your hatred as well. And that, my friend, is something you can’t do on your own ‘ you need to depend upon God’s love, residing in you, to do that.