Why Hasn’t God Delivered Me From This Sexual Struggle?

Sam Fraser

The story line for myself and many Christian men wanting to achieve sexual integrity often feels like an endless pattern of short-term successes and long-term failure. Exasperated, I turned to God crying out, ‘remove this thorn!’ But He didn’t. Hey God, why not? If God is good, and He is; if God is love, and He is; then what’s up with that? There must be another message that God is giving me and it’s not sinking in. Why have I not been delivered from this? The thorn remains.

Paul reports his experience of praying for God to remove a sin pattern that he was unable to master, his personal thorn in 2 Corinthians chapter 12. There is much speculation of what Paul’s thorn actually was but nobody knows for certain. However, I definitely know what mine has been. Perhaps you do as well.

Paul prayed three times to have this ‘thorn’ removed. The Lord’s answer: Uh-uh, nada, zilch, negatory, no deal. God did not deliver Paul from his personal thorn either. Sometimes God is like that; He doesn’t always do the straightforward thing. Paul prayed and did not get the obvious and expected solution. God was up to something else. God was teaching Paul a deeper spiritual truth. For some things, God wants us to rely on Him much more than we normally would.

The answer was elucidated for Paul when he writes, ‘When we are weak, then we are strong’. (2 Cor. 12:10)’.

So, I am spiritually strong when I can confess that my puny human strength fails me. I can identify with that. I cannot maintain my sexual integrity in my own strength, in my own power, through my efforts. God has to supply the strength. The flesh nature is not strong enough and it never will be. But, rather, it is a confession that sets me free from continuing in my futile attempts. It also disrupts the powerlessness and shame of failure that lead to despair. The despair sets in motion a cycle that leads to more acting out.

By confessing that I don’t have what it takes I find healing. I can now agree with Paul that the secret of my strength will be in a willing confession that I don’t have what it takes. Nor will I ever. This has been very restorative. Additionally, knowing that each time I cry out for His strength and relying on Him will make me spiritually stronger. Hallelujah! Now I get it’ duh!

Still, asking for help (cf., my article in the archives on the H-bomb) takes a lot of courage and strength, and/or desperation. Not only the first time, but every time. Eveeerrrry time! Even now, I have to rely on His strength and I have to ask for it. It has taken such a long, long time to follow through and maintain this strategy. After millions of failures (it seemed like that many) I felt like turning away from God and giving up hope because of the depth of my despair. I was humiliated and hated myself for not being able to overcome my acting out.

As a Christian I thought that I should be able to overcome this sin sooner. But the spiritual truth that God taught Paul is that I do not have it within me’ at all. Ever. It is a theological fact. Period.

Initially, I was taught that I needed a Savior to overcome my sinful nature. But, somewhere along the way, I got it in my head that now that I have been a Christian for a while I should somehow be able to achieve moral victories through my own efforts. The misconception was that by this stage of my Christian walk I should have accumulated enough of ‘whatever’ to achieve moral victory. Failure translated into the belief that there was something lacking in me. There was, what has always been there, my human nature. I cannot save me from myself. Knowledge is one thing. Understanding is another. Until the knowledge in my head drops into the heart of my understanding it is like a banging gong and a clanking cymbal.

I am strong only when I confess I am weak. To take it a step further in this weak-strong principle, we must rely on others. It is another aspect of accepting my weakness. But’ that is an article for another day. Blessings.

For more help on this subject see Every Man’s Battle.

46 thoughts on “Why Hasn’t God Delivered Me From This Sexual Struggle?

  1. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in our fallen nature of ours, we will always be a struggle with sin. God promises us that when we fall, confess our sin, he will forgive us, however. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and you will have the victory over by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    • God hates sin because it is an abomination to Him. and because it sends people to hell. and it lets demons enter people to use them to make others who dont know the truth fall into hell as well. if you read proverbs, it will explain in many ways who a fool is. and the bible also says that God does not delight in a fool.

      works without faith is dead. so we need Jesus blood. faith without works is dead. so we need to take time to read the bible and do what it says as well.

      Jesus asked a sister of mine, who i know from GOD, is true and was not lying, she said JESUS came to her in a vision and asked “why did i die on the cross for you?” she said, to forgive our sins?” He said “yes, but why else?” she said, so we can overcome sin?” He told her that was right. i have had visions of me going to hell, even while i was crying and crying and crying thinking i could never stop sinning, so i never stopped.

      my brother had a rapture dream, He gets dreams from GOD, and even though i was a believer, he went in the rapture, and he looked down, and i was still on the ground. i did not go. why? because i was doing things wrong. with only ignorant excuses to back me up. just because i was sad and crying, it does not justify anything. without holiness, no one can see GOD. thats a quote from the bible.

  2. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in our fallen nature of ours, we will always be a struggle with sin. God promises us that when we fall, confess our sin, he will forgive us, however. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and you will have the victory over by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    • God hates sin because it is an abomination to Him. and because it sends people to hell. and it lets demons enter people to use them to make others who dont know the truth fall into hell as well. if you read proverbs, it will explain in many ways who a fool is. and the bible also says that God does not delight in a fool.

      works without faith is dead. so we need Jesus blood. faith without works is dead. so we need to take time to read the bible and do what it says as well.

      Jesus asked a sister of mine, who i know from GOD, is true and was not lying, she said JESUS came to her in a vision and asked “why did i die on the cross for you?” she said, to forgive our sins?” He said “yes, but why else?” she said, so we can overcome sin?” He told her that was right. i have had visions of me going to hell, even while i was crying and crying and crying thinking i could never stop sinning, so i never stopped.

      my brother had a rapture dream, He gets dreams from GOD, and even though i was a believer, he went in the rapture, and he looked down, and i was still on the ground. i did not go. why? because i was doing things wrong. with only ignorant excuses to back me up. just because i was sad and crying, it does not justify anything. without holiness, no one can see GOD. thats a quote from the bible.

  3. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with, in that passage. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners, but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in this fallen nature of ours, we will always struggle with sin. God promises us, however, that when we do fall, if we confess our sin, he will forgive us. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. That is His promise. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and have the victory over it by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    (edited and corrected comment)

    • hebrews chapter 10: 26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

      John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

      1 John 5:18 We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.

      1 corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

      we are saved by GRACE—through—faith. romans points out that we cannot be saved by works, we need faith. but if u move on to the next level, away from milk and into the meat, we cannot read only what makes us feel better. the bible doesnt contradict itself. there is one scripture that debunks all of the other scriptures some may use to explain once saved always saved, and makes them only mere opinions. every scripture in the bible means something, and its actual meaning, is truth. so this one scripture says “faith, without works, is dead.” not to mention there are plenty of other scriptures as well. like the ones above.

      im sure a lot like to quote “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus,….” yeah, but there is more in that same verse and the rest of it says: “…..who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

      how do you walk according to the Spirit?

      galatians 5:22 “but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. Galatians 5 also says that the works of the flesh is contrary to the Spirit. and all the works of the flesh shown in Galatians ch5, every single one of them, is a work, a word that includes all sin the bible tells us not to do, has to do with the works of the flesh.

      so, it is narrow to find the path, and narrow to stay on the path. first, believe in Jesus, let Him work through you, and also obey Him, learn from mistakes, and from others mistakes so you dont do them, turn away from all sin you know you are doing wrong, continue to grow in the LORD JESUS, and He will guide you and teach you on other things to work on, take one step at a time, fast or slow depending on what and how God is working and how your getting it. once you are perfected in obedience and love, and you sinneth not, you are born again.

      all deadly sin, no excuse. we have to know asap so you can obey. we can be born again by not sinning deadly sins, and for fixing and making right wrongs when God reveals them. there is no excuse for sin, once it is made known to us, and deadly sin, no excuse. people have no excuse to not learn how to not go to hell. GOD always makes a way for a believer not to sin. if they sin anyways cause its too hard, then they havent searched enough. if u love GOD, dont commit sin. but the bible says, if you end up committing sin anyways, if you regret it humbly, and ask for forgiveness, and tell yourself your not going to do it again, then God will forgive you.

      even though i said “you” a lot or some, im saying it to whomever its meant for while reading it. whoever that may be.

      • i need to correct myself on something, there was a scripture i misquoted. it was 1 John 5:18. i typed God keepeth himself. the scripture actually says he keepeth himself. praise GOD forever amen!

  4. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with, in that passage. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners, but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in this fallen nature of ours, we will always struggle with sin. God promises us, however, that when we do fall, if we confess our sin, he will forgive us. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. That is His promise. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and have the victory over it by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    (edited and corrected comment)

    • hebrews chapter 10: 26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

      John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

      1 John 5:18 We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.

      1 corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

      we are saved by GRACE—through—faith. romans points out that we cannot be saved by works, we need faith. but if u move on to the next level, away from milk and into the meat, we cannot read only what makes us feel better. the bible doesnt contradict itself. there is one scripture that debunks all of the other scriptures some may use to explain once saved always saved, and makes them only mere opinions. every scripture in the bible means something, and its actual meaning, is truth. so this one scripture says “faith, without works, is dead.” not to mention there are plenty of other scriptures as well. like the ones above.

      im sure a lot like to quote “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus,….” yeah, but there is more in that same verse and the rest of it says: “…..who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

      how do you walk according to the Spirit?

      galatians 5:22 “but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. Galatians 5 also says that the works of the flesh is contrary to the Spirit. and all the works of the flesh shown in Galatians ch5, every single one of them, is a work, a word that includes all sin the bible tells us not to do, has to do with the works of the flesh.

      so, it is narrow to find the path, and narrow to stay on the path. first, believe in Jesus, let Him work through you, and also obey Him, learn from mistakes, and from others mistakes so you dont do them, turn away from all sin you know you are doing wrong, continue to grow in the LORD JESUS, and He will guide you and teach you on other things to work on, take one step at a time, fast or slow depending on what and how God is working and how your getting it. once you are perfected in obedience and love, and you sinneth not, you are born again.

      all deadly sin, no excuse. we have to know asap so you can obey. we can be born again by not sinning deadly sins, and for fixing and making right wrongs when God reveals them. there is no excuse for sin, once it is made known to us, and deadly sin, no excuse. people have no excuse to not learn how to not go to hell. GOD always makes a way for a believer not to sin. if they sin anyways cause its too hard, then they havent searched enough. if u love GOD, dont commit sin. but the bible says, if you end up committing sin anyways, if you regret it humbly, and ask for forgiveness, and tell yourself your not going to do it again, then God will forgive you.

      even though i said “you” a lot or some, im saying it to whomever its meant for while reading it. whoever that may be.

      • i need to correct myself on something, there was a scripture i misquoted. it was 1 John 5:18. i typed God keepeth himself. the scripture actually says he keepeth himself. praise GOD forever amen!

  5. Nonsense. It’s not a thorn in the flesh: it is the flesh and it is sin. Jesus came into this world to save us from our sins. Do not read Romans chapter 7 in isolation from chapter 6 and 8. If we walk in the Spirit we will not fulfill the deeds of the flesh. We must walk by faith – not sight. We fail because we fail to walk in the Spirit and promises of God by faith. Stop using God as an excuse for your lack of faith. Stop handing your body over to sin. Start believing the promises of God purchased for you with the blood of Christ. Stop reading and believing the opinions of men and start believing the the Word of God.

  6. Nonsense. It’s not a thorn in the flesh: it is the flesh and it is sin. Jesus came into this world to save us from our sins. Do not read Romans chapter 7 in isolation from chapter 6 and 8. If we walk in the Spirit we will not fulfill the deeds of the flesh. We must walk by faith – not sight. We fail because we fail to walk in the Spirit and promises of God by faith. Stop using God as an excuse for your lack of faith. Stop handing your body over to sin. Start believing the promises of God purchased for you with the blood of Christ. Stop reading and believing the opinions of men and start believing the the Word of God.

  7. point being, the power we have to overcome sin God has given us His power to overcome it already. here is how you get rid of sexual sin; desire God more than unholiness. desire eternal life more than hell. love GOD. read bible, pray, obey everything in the new testament, and the ten commandments.

    how do we do that? say the sinners prayer, and then act upon it to show God you mean it. because “feeling” like you mean it, and saying you mean it, but you dont do it, or find a way of escape from sin to act upon the prayer, then you do not mean it. love God more than sin.

    feeling like you have to commit a sexual sin, and sitting there for 15 minutes asking for help, and knowing your not supposed to do it, and that GOD would not be pleased, pouting and crying its too hard its too hard, and then giving in and doing it,, that is not loving GOD more than the sexual sin.

    the bible doesnt just tell us what is sin, it also tells us how to not sin. google it there is a scripture that says “when the thought comes, desire comes, when desire comes, then sin, and when there is sin, there comes death.”

    so dont think about what would make you give in. dont make excuses. dont look at stuff that could tempt you. dont talk about it, and stay way from you friends that commit it. if you are hurting, go on a walk, it will stop within less than 15 minutes, or less. if you truly love GOD, you would do anything to not do it. and if you do anything to not do it, then you will not do it.

    Jesus told me once, if you really want to do better, you would do better.

    so if you have no self control of thoughts, you will be tempted. and if you love God more than the sin, you will not do it. its that simple. there is always a way out for sin. having hatred in your heart due to depression from a secret past? pray about it, may or may not take time. but if it does take time, get ready for the purification, its rough sometimes, but you have to do trust in God and push through it.

    and besides, satan may put thoughts in your head at first, until you conquer the sin, and conquer the testing, but with sinful thoughts, do not feed them. if the enemy puts a thought in your head, push it away, deny it. do not ag it on. because if you do, thats also sin right there.

    watch TB Joshua on Emmanuel TV channel on youtube. and find out how to avoid sin. and what happens to people when they sin! hint : demons wait for someone to sin, once they do, they have free will to harm their finances, their jobs, their children, their emotions, their car, even their life can be ended.

    why does God allow young people to die?

    the bible says “those who are born of God sinneth not”

    those who are born of God, are protected from the enemy. thats another reason why God tells us what not to do and what to do. He loves us. died for us. if we sin, and do not regret it and change our ways by stop sinning and seeking Gods face instead of only His hands, then, the devil has openings in our life to harm us, and we could die. and dying in deadly sins….heaven will not be where we would go. the bible says so. GOD doesnt want us to go to hell. so He tells us in the bible how to make sure we dont go there.

    and sexual sin, is a deadly sin.

  8. point being, the power we have to overcome sin God has given us His power to overcome it already. here is how you get rid of sexual sin; desire God more than unholiness. desire eternal life more than hell. love GOD. read bible, pray, obey everything in the new testament, and the ten commandments.

    how do we do that? say the sinners prayer, and then act upon it to show God you mean it. because “feeling” like you mean it, and saying you mean it, but you dont do it, or find a way of escape from sin to act upon the prayer, then you do not mean it. love God more than sin.

    feeling like you have to commit a sexual sin, and sitting there for 15 minutes asking for help, and knowing your not supposed to do it, and that GOD would not be pleased, pouting and crying its too hard its too hard, and then giving in and doing it,, that is not loving GOD more than the sexual sin.

    the bible doesnt just tell us what is sin, it also tells us how to not sin. google it there is a scripture that says “when the thought comes, desire comes, when desire comes, then sin, and when there is sin, there comes death.”

    so dont think about what would make you give in. dont make excuses. dont look at stuff that could tempt you. dont talk about it, and stay way from you friends that commit it. if you are hurting, go on a walk, it will stop within less than 15 minutes, or less. if you truly love GOD, you would do anything to not do it. and if you do anything to not do it, then you will not do it.

    Jesus told me once, if you really want to do better, you would do better.

    so if you have no self control of thoughts, you will be tempted. and if you love God more than the sin, you will not do it. its that simple. there is always a way out for sin. having hatred in your heart due to depression from a secret past? pray about it, may or may not take time. but if it does take time, get ready for the purification, its rough sometimes, but you have to do trust in God and push through it.

    and besides, satan may put thoughts in your head at first, until you conquer the sin, and conquer the testing, but with sinful thoughts, do not feed them. if the enemy puts a thought in your head, push it away, deny it. do not ag it on. because if you do, thats also sin right there.

    watch TB Joshua on Emmanuel TV channel on youtube. and find out how to avoid sin. and what happens to people when they sin! hint : demons wait for someone to sin, once they do, they have free will to harm their finances, their jobs, their children, their emotions, their car, even their life can be ended.

    why does God allow young people to die?

    the bible says “those who are born of God sinneth not”

    those who are born of God, are protected from the enemy. thats another reason why God tells us what not to do and what to do. He loves us. died for us. if we sin, and do not regret it and change our ways by stop sinning and seeking Gods face instead of only His hands, then, the devil has openings in our life to harm us, and we could die. and dying in deadly sins….heaven will not be where we would go. the bible says so. GOD doesnt want us to go to hell. so He tells us in the bible how to make sure we dont go there.

    and sexual sin, is a deadly sin.

  9. I lust over men, I am an angry soul. I’ve had numerous unholy thoughts and I’ve been caught in addiction after addiction. I’ve dishonered my family and I even cursed out God before. I see my wrongs now and I’m sorry and I want to stop. I want to be holy, I don’t want to sin anymore. Sometimes when I start to walk in the spirit I feel like it’s too late and that I should give up. Even this morning I gave into pornography and I’m regretting it right now. I know my flesh doesn’t care but I want to stop. I was feeling tempted since last night. I’ve gotten rid of things that I thought trigger it but I still have this phone. Should I get rid of my phone? I use it for work but I know God will provide for me if I give this up right? Does God still want me to go to heaven? I willfully Sinned this morning and I feel so stupid for doing it. Will I ever not sin? Will I ever be perfect? Will I get to the point where I’m not tempted to sin willfully?

  10. I lust over men, I am an angry soul. I’ve had numerous unholy thoughts and I’ve been caught in addiction after addiction. I’ve dishonered my family and I even cursed out God before. I see my wrongs now and I’m sorry and I want to stop. I want to be holy, I don’t want to sin anymore. Sometimes when I start to walk in the spirit I feel like it’s too late and that I should give up. Even this morning I gave into pornography and I’m regretting it right now. I know my flesh doesn’t care but I want to stop. I was feeling tempted since last night. I’ve gotten rid of things that I thought trigger it but I still have this phone. Should I get rid of my phone? I use it for work but I know God will provide for me if I give this up right? Does God still want me to go to heaven? I willfully Sinned this morning and I feel so stupid for doing it. Will I ever not sin? Will I ever be perfect? Will I get to the point where I’m not tempted to sin willfully?

  11. ALL GLORY be to GOD FOREVER, amen!!!!!!

    I understand what you are going through from struggling with sexual sin because I too I have suffered with this struggle, and I am a woman, and I was deep in sin, and I was so beyond tired of it that it was not natural to me, which it isn’t natural to go over the WILL of GOD for everyone’s life, and how GOD made sex for married people, it’s a gift to them, and for reproduction, and not to be abused over the limit of GOD’S WILL for it, HIS purpose for sex, and when it is being abused, and going outside of GOD’S WILL, like sexual perversion of all sorts, lusting after corruption, like, for example being attracted to the same sex, and premarital sex before marriage, self pleasure, pleasuring yourself sexually, ungodly, and unholy corrupt sexually, impure, perverted thoughts which all of these things are corruption from the enemy Satan, they are sin because they are not in GOD’S WILL, which is HIS WORD, and GOD tells us to flee fornication, and abstain from all appearance of evil, amen! 1 Corinthians 6:18; 1 Thessalonians 5:22; Genesis 1:27-28; Mark 10:6-7, these are some Bible verses that explains how, and why GOD created humans, male, and female, marriage, sex, procreation, and how HE made the woman for the man so that she could be a help meet to him, Genesis 2:18, for relationship, his needs, and in other areas of his life because of the order and way GOD made humans with a living soul, a body, emotions, feelings that are met by GOD through companionship of becoming one flesh with a spouse that GOD chooses for the person, as like wise the woman’s needs are met as well from her husband, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically, but ultimately our every need is met in GOD, only, in every area of life Genesis 2:21-25! GOD is of ORDER, and not confusion 1Corinthians 14:33, which is of the enemy Satan only, and he is the one that causes people to sin against GOD through temptation of sin, starting with lust, lusting over something GOD made for GOOD, but Satan will try you as he did Eve in the garden of Eden. Genesis 3:1-7. GOD made everything good, and for a purpose Genesis 1:31, not to be abused, and go over HIS command for which it was made, and sex is not bad, not a sin, but it is made only solely for the purpose, and enjoyment for married couples, which consists of between a man, and a woman Hebrews 13:4! GOD made our bodies a certain way in order for the order of sex to be an activity between a male, and female, but when that order is abused, going outside of the order of GOD’S creation it is corruption, sin, and sin brings only destruction which only leads to death the course of sin, Genesis 3:14-19.

    Romans 1:18-31; 2:2
    These chapter and verses explains how the devil (Satan) caused people to sin against GOD, caused people to fall into corruption, sin, working against the order of GOD’S creation, the order of HIS WILL for all humanity, and life! But to remind you that it is not always Satan that causes people to sin, but there own selves because GOD gave everyone free will Genesis 2:17; 1 Corinthians 10:13, and sometimes we are tempted by our own lust, overly liking something that is good or wanting something that is not good in which we think is good for us, but isn’t! For example, food, over eating when your stomach is full, and still trying to eat while full, and then hurting yourself by overeating, which will then cause a complication, and then problems in the body that is not good! But all sin comes from the devil, period, and he is a LIAR John 8:44, and only speaks lies, and anything that is a lie isn’t good at all! GOD is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE, and HE is only GOOD, and only goodness comes from the TRUTH!!!!!!

    More detail about sin/lust, and how it starts, and what it does, and what it’s result is is James 1:15!

    But I wanted to let anyone on here who is or may be struggling with sexual immorality or sexual sin that GOD, JESUS CHRIST is the SAVIOR of our souls, and is a REDEEEMER, and is a DELIVERER from all sin, and that HE CAN, and WILL DELIVER you from yourself, and from sin, from the struggle, the bondage of the enemy Satan because HE did it for me, yes me in the MIGHTY NAME of CHRIST JESUS, amen!!!!!!! JOHN 8:36; 2 Corinthians 5:17!!!!!!!!!

    I can testify to anyone that in the NAME of CHRIST JESUS, I am FREE from sexual immorality, and the struggle I went through for years, years, and it almost killed me, but by the GRACE of GOD, GOD SAVED me, and spared my life, and I was on my way to hell, but my parents PRAYED for me constantly, and GOD heard their cries, prayers, and spared my life, and JESUS CHRIST is the REASON why I am STILL HERE today, and do not have the urge or feeling to sin or want to commit sin anymore, but hate sin passionately, strongly with all of my whole heart, amen! HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! By the grace of GOD I will pray for you, and anyone who is struggling with any weakness, and I encourage you to please ask GOD with all of your heart to help you, but you have to want to CHANGE, and not have it in your heart that you still want to continue to sin even if you repent, you have to REALLY WANT CHANGE, and give this STRUGGLE to GOD, and even ask HIM to SAVE YOU from YOURSELF because we can be our worst enemy, amen!!!!!!! I know what you are going through because I went through it, and GOD brought me right through it, and delivered me right out of it in the MIGHTY NAME of CHRIST JESUS, amen!!!!!!!! HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! It’s not easy, and I still go through things, but I am not willfully or influenced, nor want to sin against GOD, I pray to HIM whenever the devil tries to tempt me or if I feel that something is wrong, and I constantly talk to GOD all day, everyday, throughout everyday HE allows me to be here, and I surround myself with other believers of CHRIST as well, and attend church, a true Bible, HOLY GHOST filled, and believing, and POWER of GOD church because if the TRUTH of GOD’S WORD, and HIS HOLY SPIRIT, and HIS POWER is not in a church, then please get out of that church, and ask GOD to help, and lead you to one!!!!!! GOD bless you all, and GOD LOVES you all, and I do too in the NAME of CHRIST JESUS, amen! Give your life to GOD, and you will never, NEVER REGRET it, amen!!!!!!!!

  12. I must agree that Paul had something wrong that he just could not speak out. As a very close walking man of God that has trouble with the flesh when it comes to younger women, I imagine that this allocation would be something that an unmarried man would struggle with. Paul was not a God but a simple man with the same set of temptations that we all face. Why else would God use him so greatly to speak to us through his word except that he wants us each to know that he can use us for his glory through the grace of God in Christ Jesus who covers our sins perfectly, not partially or through our own devices. Paul had a weakness but being a man of God I am sure he battled and wrestled with it as most men do and it gave Satan something to taunt him by. Attempting to lessen his effectiveness through guilt was the plan but God spoke wisdom to Paul through the spirit and told him he was a man and God knew how to handle that, through an eternal sacrifice of his son and it doesn’t fail. Paul’s attitude was right and he was an upright man before God. If he had an affliction in his heart from failed acts in his flesh in private then I would say he was very strong and dealt within himself the best he could as a man but didn’t let his weakness overcome his strength because he had a job to do. You can do God’s work regardless of your weaknesses. Check yourself with God. If you’re upright and confess to him then he will take care of the rest. Just do your best. God knows what your best is. Don’t let the enemy steal your commitment and stamina as a child of God. That’s a lie that can’t be allowed in your life once you are saved. An evangelical Christian who was brought up believing in backsliding but God opened my eyes to that false belief. Once Christ’s blood covers you it’s a contract and nothing can or will pull you out of the hands of God. Jesus won’t let it. Some say denouncing will but I say only a fool would denounce such a wonderful gift. Only anger could bring those words and Christ would know it was a foolish remark that we would greatly regret so why would he honor it? If you are a Christian you are called. The main thing here is to continue working through your failures and you will still earn a crown cf righteousness to offer to Jesus one day when you see him. I’ll be praying for you all who are seeking answers. Stay strong and Marinotha.

  13. Greetings brothers in Jesus Holy name.
    I was healed from my sexual struggles but what God took me through to get there was supernatural.
    Oct of 2013 the Holy Spirit led me to the foot of the cross at the ripe old age of 45.
    I was born again and the change was immediate and profound. I had spent my whole life living in the worst kinds of sins with drugs, alcohol, crime, etc… I was a regular John Gotti type.
    Luckily I was in an environment that helped to foster my newly given life and not corrupt what God had just done to me.
    Since I was maybe 13 years old I was addicted to pornography and self pleasure. For the first three months after God saved me I fought the old man and tried to stop. There was a part of me that resisted the Holy Spirit and when I would fail time and time again I would be left with such shame of what I had done I felt like I was dying inside.
    Finally about the middle of February 2014 I had had enough, I was abstaining under my own strength and really feeling good about myself. I really thought I had it licked and that God would be proud of my self-will.
    Then like a perfect storm I found myself in the presence of my favorite kind of pornography and that old man reared his ugly head and like a robot I followed thru with what I had promised I would not do. Afterwards I stood staring into the bathroom mirror and tears ran down my face, I was so sick of myself and I felt so powerless to stop what I had been doing. I don’t know if it was my imagination but while looking in the mirror I saw Jesus standing behind me and he had tears running down his face. I cried out to the Lord “Please Lord take this sin from me, I can’t stop on my own!”.
    About four hours later I got into the shower and while standing under the hot water as it ran over my head I remembered what had happened earlier that day in the bathroom. In front of my as if the bathroom were now a large room I saw the air open in front of me and I saw Jesus on the cross. In my head I heard a voice say “This is what I did for you, and this is what you do for me.” At that moment it felt like God dipped a feather into my sin, then ran it down my arm so I could feel how that sin feels to him. What I felt was so abominable and dark it dropped me to my knees and I howled with such despair, I now knew how sin affects our Father and it broke me.
    It is now May of 2019 and I am 50 years old. Since that incident I have not looked at pornography nor touched myself in an impure way.
    So why did God take that sin from me, why did he make it so I am incapable of committing that sin when I still struggle with so many others?
    What I know to be true is this, God will not free you from something you are not willing to give up 100%. That day in front of the mirror when I called out to God I was completely and utterly broken by my sin and knew there was nothing in me that had the power to stop. God saw it too which is why he healed me.
    I have tried it with my other struggles but deep down I know I still hold a small place in my heart for the other sins, sure I don’t want to keep sinning but my other sins don’t have the affect on me that sexual sin did.
    Brothers if you still hold a small place in your heart for what you are doing, if you cry out for God to help you and God searches your heart but doesn’t see truth in your words then no help will God give.
    I pray you find the help I know only God is capable of giving.

  14. As I have struggled since teen years and now 40 and no changes even after praying, counseling and crying out i have come to realize what someone told me years ago. Predestination is as real as the person you see in the mirror. God has elected those to go to heaven and some not. It’s all through scripture. To those elected are delivered of their sins and to those who are not elected are left to crave and indulge in their sins with no hope of escaping. I have come to see this as absolute truth with my life. No matter how much you throw yourself on him, if you aren’t the elect it’s all in vain. It’s a sad reality of life and the after life. Hopefully this sheds light for those who have no answers to the why.

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Why Hasn’t God Delivered Me From This Sexual Struggle?

Sam Fraser

The story line for myself and many Christian men wanting to achieve sexual integrity often feels like an endless pattern of short-term successes and long-term failure. Exasperated, I turned to God crying out, ‘remove this thorn!’ But He didn’t. Hey God, why not? If God is good, and He is; if God is love, and He is; then what’s up with that? There must be another message that God is giving me and it’s not sinking in. Why have I not been delivered from this? The thorn remains.

Paul reports his experience of praying for God to remove a sin pattern that he was unable to master, his personal thorn in 2 Corinthians chapter 12. There is much speculation of what Paul’s thorn actually was but nobody knows for certain. However, I definitely know what mine has been. Perhaps you do as well.

Paul prayed three times to have this ‘thorn’ removed. The Lord’s answer: Uh-uh, nada, zilch, negatory, no deal. God did not deliver Paul from his personal thorn either. Sometimes God is like that; He doesn’t always do the straightforward thing. Paul prayed and did not get the obvious and expected solution. God was up to something else. God was teaching Paul a deeper spiritual truth. For some things, God wants us to rely on Him much more than we normally would.

The answer was elucidated for Paul when he writes, ‘When we are weak, then we are strong’. (2 Cor. 12:10)’.

So, I am spiritually strong when I can confess that my puny human strength fails me. I can identify with that. I cannot maintain my sexual integrity in my own strength, in my own power, through my efforts. God has to supply the strength. The flesh nature is not strong enough and it never will be. But, rather, it is a confession that sets me free from continuing in my futile attempts. It also disrupts the powerlessness and shame of failure that lead to despair. The despair sets in motion a cycle that leads to more acting out.

By confessing that I don’t have what it takes I find healing. I can now agree with Paul that the secret of my strength will be in a willing confession that I don’t have what it takes. Nor will I ever. This has been very restorative. Additionally, knowing that each time I cry out for His strength and relying on Him will make me spiritually stronger. Hallelujah! Now I get it’ duh!

Still, asking for help (cf., my article in the archives on the H-bomb) takes a lot of courage and strength, and/or desperation. Not only the first time, but every time. Eveeerrrry time! Even now, I have to rely on His strength and I have to ask for it. It has taken such a long, long time to follow through and maintain this strategy. After millions of failures (it seemed like that many) I felt like turning away from God and giving up hope because of the depth of my despair. I was humiliated and hated myself for not being able to overcome my acting out.

As a Christian I thought that I should be able to overcome this sin sooner. But the spiritual truth that God taught Paul is that I do not have it within me’ at all. Ever. It is a theological fact. Period.

Initially, I was taught that I needed a Savior to overcome my sinful nature. But, somewhere along the way, I got it in my head that now that I have been a Christian for a while I should somehow be able to achieve moral victories through my own efforts. The misconception was that by this stage of my Christian walk I should have accumulated enough of ‘whatever’ to achieve moral victory. Failure translated into the belief that there was something lacking in me. There was, what has always been there, my human nature. I cannot save me from myself. Knowledge is one thing. Understanding is another. Until the knowledge in my head drops into the heart of my understanding it is like a banging gong and a clanking cymbal.

I am strong only when I confess I am weak. To take it a step further in this weak-strong principle, we must rely on others. It is another aspect of accepting my weakness. But’ that is an article for another day. Blessings.

For more help on this subject see Every Man’s Battle.

46 thoughts on “Why Hasn’t God Delivered Me From This Sexual Struggle?

  1. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in our fallen nature of ours, we will always be a struggle with sin. God promises us that when we fall, confess our sin, he will forgive us, however. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and you will have the victory over by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    • God hates sin because it is an abomination to Him. and because it sends people to hell. and it lets demons enter people to use them to make others who dont know the truth fall into hell as well. if you read proverbs, it will explain in many ways who a fool is. and the bible also says that God does not delight in a fool.

      works without faith is dead. so we need Jesus blood. faith without works is dead. so we need to take time to read the bible and do what it says as well.

      Jesus asked a sister of mine, who i know from GOD, is true and was not lying, she said JESUS came to her in a vision and asked “why did i die on the cross for you?” she said, to forgive our sins?” He said “yes, but why else?” she said, so we can overcome sin?” He told her that was right. i have had visions of me going to hell, even while i was crying and crying and crying thinking i could never stop sinning, so i never stopped.

      my brother had a rapture dream, He gets dreams from GOD, and even though i was a believer, he went in the rapture, and he looked down, and i was still on the ground. i did not go. why? because i was doing things wrong. with only ignorant excuses to back me up. just because i was sad and crying, it does not justify anything. without holiness, no one can see GOD. thats a quote from the bible.

  2. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in our fallen nature of ours, we will always be a struggle with sin. God promises us that when we fall, confess our sin, he will forgive us, however. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and you will have the victory over by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    • God hates sin because it is an abomination to Him. and because it sends people to hell. and it lets demons enter people to use them to make others who dont know the truth fall into hell as well. if you read proverbs, it will explain in many ways who a fool is. and the bible also says that God does not delight in a fool.

      works without faith is dead. so we need Jesus blood. faith without works is dead. so we need to take time to read the bible and do what it says as well.

      Jesus asked a sister of mine, who i know from GOD, is true and was not lying, she said JESUS came to her in a vision and asked “why did i die on the cross for you?” she said, to forgive our sins?” He said “yes, but why else?” she said, so we can overcome sin?” He told her that was right. i have had visions of me going to hell, even while i was crying and crying and crying thinking i could never stop sinning, so i never stopped.

      my brother had a rapture dream, He gets dreams from GOD, and even though i was a believer, he went in the rapture, and he looked down, and i was still on the ground. i did not go. why? because i was doing things wrong. with only ignorant excuses to back me up. just because i was sad and crying, it does not justify anything. without holiness, no one can see GOD. thats a quote from the bible.

  3. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with, in that passage. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners, but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in this fallen nature of ours, we will always struggle with sin. God promises us, however, that when we do fall, if we confess our sin, he will forgive us. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. That is His promise. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and have the victory over it by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    (edited and corrected comment)

    • hebrews chapter 10: 26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

      John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

      1 John 5:18 We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.

      1 corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

      we are saved by GRACE—through—faith. romans points out that we cannot be saved by works, we need faith. but if u move on to the next level, away from milk and into the meat, we cannot read only what makes us feel better. the bible doesnt contradict itself. there is one scripture that debunks all of the other scriptures some may use to explain once saved always saved, and makes them only mere opinions. every scripture in the bible means something, and its actual meaning, is truth. so this one scripture says “faith, without works, is dead.” not to mention there are plenty of other scriptures as well. like the ones above.

      im sure a lot like to quote “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus,….” yeah, but there is more in that same verse and the rest of it says: “…..who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

      how do you walk according to the Spirit?

      galatians 5:22 “but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. Galatians 5 also says that the works of the flesh is contrary to the Spirit. and all the works of the flesh shown in Galatians ch5, every single one of them, is a work, a word that includes all sin the bible tells us not to do, has to do with the works of the flesh.

      so, it is narrow to find the path, and narrow to stay on the path. first, believe in Jesus, let Him work through you, and also obey Him, learn from mistakes, and from others mistakes so you dont do them, turn away from all sin you know you are doing wrong, continue to grow in the LORD JESUS, and He will guide you and teach you on other things to work on, take one step at a time, fast or slow depending on what and how God is working and how your getting it. once you are perfected in obedience and love, and you sinneth not, you are born again.

      all deadly sin, no excuse. we have to know asap so you can obey. we can be born again by not sinning deadly sins, and for fixing and making right wrongs when God reveals them. there is no excuse for sin, once it is made known to us, and deadly sin, no excuse. people have no excuse to not learn how to not go to hell. GOD always makes a way for a believer not to sin. if they sin anyways cause its too hard, then they havent searched enough. if u love GOD, dont commit sin. but the bible says, if you end up committing sin anyways, if you regret it humbly, and ask for forgiveness, and tell yourself your not going to do it again, then God will forgive you.

      even though i said “you” a lot or some, im saying it to whomever its meant for while reading it. whoever that may be.

      • i need to correct myself on something, there was a scripture i misquoted. it was 1 John 5:18. i typed God keepeth himself. the scripture actually says he keepeth himself. praise GOD forever amen!

  4. I don’t believe that God wants to keep a sin in your life to improve your character or that Paul’s thorn in the flesh was a sin that he was struggling with, in that passage. I believe he was struggling with an infirmity; some kind of physical affliction. We all struggle with sin, for sure, because we are all sinners, but God hates sin because it hurts us. He surely wants to give us the power to overcome sin. As long as we live in this fallen nature of ours, we will always struggle with sin. God promises us, however, that when we do fall, if we confess our sin, he will forgive us. (1 John 1:9) That is our hope. That is His promise. If you keep confessing and asking forgiveness, one day you may commit that sin for the last time and have the victory over it by the grace of God.

    Paul received so much revelation from God that it could have puffed him up; gone to his head. His affliction was a buffer to keep him humble; but I want to reiterate, his thorn in the flesh was not a sin, it was an affliction.

    (edited and corrected comment)

    • hebrews chapter 10: 26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

      John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

      1 John 5:18 We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not; but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.

      1 corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

      we are saved by GRACE—through—faith. romans points out that we cannot be saved by works, we need faith. but if u move on to the next level, away from milk and into the meat, we cannot read only what makes us feel better. the bible doesnt contradict itself. there is one scripture that debunks all of the other scriptures some may use to explain once saved always saved, and makes them only mere opinions. every scripture in the bible means something, and its actual meaning, is truth. so this one scripture says “faith, without works, is dead.” not to mention there are plenty of other scriptures as well. like the ones above.

      im sure a lot like to quote “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus,….” yeah, but there is more in that same verse and the rest of it says: “…..who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

      how do you walk according to the Spirit?

      galatians 5:22 “but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. Galatians 5 also says that the works of the flesh is contrary to the Spirit. and all the works of the flesh shown in Galatians ch5, every single one of them, is a work, a word that includes all sin the bible tells us not to do, has to do with the works of the flesh.

      so, it is narrow to find the path, and narrow to stay on the path. first, believe in Jesus, let Him work through you, and also obey Him, learn from mistakes, and from others mistakes so you dont do them, turn away from all sin you know you are doing wrong, continue to grow in the LORD JESUS, and He will guide you and teach you on other things to work on, take one step at a time, fast or slow depending on what and how God is working and how your getting it. once you are perfected in obedience and love, and you sinneth not, you are born again.

      all deadly sin, no excuse. we have to know asap so you can obey. we can be born again by not sinning deadly sins, and for fixing and making right wrongs when God reveals them. there is no excuse for sin, once it is made known to us, and deadly sin, no excuse. people have no excuse to not learn how to not go to hell. GOD always makes a way for a believer not to sin. if they sin anyways cause its too hard, then they havent searched enough. if u love GOD, dont commit sin. but the bible says, if you end up committing sin anyways, if you regret it humbly, and ask for forgiveness, and tell yourself your not going to do it again, then God will forgive you.

      even though i said “you” a lot or some, im saying it to whomever its meant for while reading it. whoever that may be.

      • i need to correct myself on something, there was a scripture i misquoted. it was 1 John 5:18. i typed God keepeth himself. the scripture actually says he keepeth himself. praise GOD forever amen!

  5. Nonsense. It’s not a thorn in the flesh: it is the flesh and it is sin. Jesus came into this world to save us from our sins. Do not read Romans chapter 7 in isolation from chapter 6 and 8. If we walk in the Spirit we will not fulfill the deeds of the flesh. We must walk by faith – not sight. We fail because we fail to walk in the Spirit and promises of God by faith. Stop using God as an excuse for your lack of faith. Stop handing your body over to sin. Start believing the promises of God purchased for you with the blood of Christ. Stop reading and believing the opinions of men and start believing the the Word of God.

  6. Nonsense. It’s not a thorn in the flesh: it is the flesh and it is sin. Jesus came into this world to save us from our sins. Do not read Romans chapter 7 in isolation from chapter 6 and 8. If we walk in the Spirit we will not fulfill the deeds of the flesh. We must walk by faith – not sight. We fail because we fail to walk in the Spirit and promises of God by faith. Stop using God as an excuse for your lack of faith. Stop handing your body over to sin. Start believing the promises of God purchased for you with the blood of Christ. Stop reading and believing the opinions of men and start believing the the Word of God.

  7. point being, the power we have to overcome sin God has given us His power to overcome it already. here is how you get rid of sexual sin; desire God more than unholiness. desire eternal life more than hell. love GOD. read bible, pray, obey everything in the new testament, and the ten commandments.

    how do we do that? say the sinners prayer, and then act upon it to show God you mean it. because “feeling” like you mean it, and saying you mean it, but you dont do it, or find a way of escape from sin to act upon the prayer, then you do not mean it. love God more than sin.

    feeling like you have to commit a sexual sin, and sitting there for 15 minutes asking for help, and knowing your not supposed to do it, and that GOD would not be pleased, pouting and crying its too hard its too hard, and then giving in and doing it,, that is not loving GOD more than the sexual sin.

    the bible doesnt just tell us what is sin, it also tells us how to not sin. google it there is a scripture that says “when the thought comes, desire comes, when desire comes, then sin, and when there is sin, there comes death.”

    so dont think about what would make you give in. dont make excuses. dont look at stuff that could tempt you. dont talk about it, and stay way from you friends that commit it. if you are hurting, go on a walk, it will stop within less than 15 minutes, or less. if you truly love GOD, you would do anything to not do it. and if you do anything to not do it, then you will not do it.

    Jesus told me once, if you really want to do better, you would do better.

    so if you have no self control of thoughts, you will be tempted. and if you love God more than the sin, you will not do it. its that simple. there is always a way out for sin. having hatred in your heart due to depression from a secret past? pray about it, may or may not take time. but if it does take time, get ready for the purification, its rough sometimes, but you have to do trust in God and push through it.

    and besides, satan may put thoughts in your head at first, until you conquer the sin, and conquer the testing, but with sinful thoughts, do not feed them. if the enemy puts a thought in your head, push it away, deny it. do not ag it on. because if you do, thats also sin right there.

    watch TB Joshua on Emmanuel TV channel on youtube. and find out how to avoid sin. and what happens to people when they sin! hint : demons wait for someone to sin, once they do, they have free will to harm their finances, their jobs, their children, their emotions, their car, even their life can be ended.

    why does God allow young people to die?

    the bible says “those who are born of God sinneth not”

    those who are born of God, are protected from the enemy. thats another reason why God tells us what not to do and what to do. He loves us. died for us. if we sin, and do not regret it and change our ways by stop sinning and seeking Gods face instead of only His hands, then, the devil has openings in our life to harm us, and we could die. and dying in deadly sins….heaven will not be where we would go. the bible says so. GOD doesnt want us to go to hell. so He tells us in the bible how to make sure we dont go there.

    and sexual sin, is a deadly sin.

  8. point being, the power we have to overcome sin God has given us His power to overcome it already. here is how you get rid of sexual sin; desire God more than unholiness. desire eternal life more than hell. love GOD. read bible, pray, obey everything in the new testament, and the ten commandments.

    how do we do that? say the sinners prayer, and then act upon it to show God you mean it. because “feeling” like you mean it, and saying you mean it, but you dont do it, or find a way of escape from sin to act upon the prayer, then you do not mean it. love God more than sin.

    feeling like you have to commit a sexual sin, and sitting there for 15 minutes asking for help, and knowing your not supposed to do it, and that GOD would not be pleased, pouting and crying its too hard its too hard, and then giving in and doing it,, that is not loving GOD more than the sexual sin.

    the bible doesnt just tell us what is sin, it also tells us how to not sin. google it there is a scripture that says “when the thought comes, desire comes, when desire comes, then sin, and when there is sin, there comes death.”

    so dont think about what would make you give in. dont make excuses. dont look at stuff that could tempt you. dont talk about it, and stay way from you friends that commit it. if you are hurting, go on a walk, it will stop within less than 15 minutes, or less. if you truly love GOD, you would do anything to not do it. and if you do anything to not do it, then you will not do it.

    Jesus told me once, if you really want to do better, you would do better.

    so if you have no self control of thoughts, you will be tempted. and if you love God more than the sin, you will not do it. its that simple. there is always a way out for sin. having hatred in your heart due to depression from a secret past? pray about it, may or may not take time. but if it does take time, get ready for the purification, its rough sometimes, but you have to do trust in God and push through it.

    and besides, satan may put thoughts in your head at first, until you conquer the sin, and conquer the testing, but with sinful thoughts, do not feed them. if the enemy puts a thought in your head, push it away, deny it. do not ag it on. because if you do, thats also sin right there.

    watch TB Joshua on Emmanuel TV channel on youtube. and find out how to avoid sin. and what happens to people when they sin! hint : demons wait for someone to sin, once they do, they have free will to harm their finances, their jobs, their children, their emotions, their car, even their life can be ended.

    why does God allow young people to die?

    the bible says “those who are born of God sinneth not”

    those who are born of God, are protected from the enemy. thats another reason why God tells us what not to do and what to do. He loves us. died for us. if we sin, and do not regret it and change our ways by stop sinning and seeking Gods face instead of only His hands, then, the devil has openings in our life to harm us, and we could die. and dying in deadly sins….heaven will not be where we would go. the bible says so. GOD doesnt want us to go to hell. so He tells us in the bible how to make sure we dont go there.

    and sexual sin, is a deadly sin.

  9. I lust over men, I am an angry soul. I’ve had numerous unholy thoughts and I’ve been caught in addiction after addiction. I’ve dishonered my family and I even cursed out God before. I see my wrongs now and I’m sorry and I want to stop. I want to be holy, I don’t want to sin anymore. Sometimes when I start to walk in the spirit I feel like it’s too late and that I should give up. Even this morning I gave into pornography and I’m regretting it right now. I know my flesh doesn’t care but I want to stop. I was feeling tempted since last night. I’ve gotten rid of things that I thought trigger it but I still have this phone. Should I get rid of my phone? I use it for work but I know God will provide for me if I give this up right? Does God still want me to go to heaven? I willfully Sinned this morning and I feel so stupid for doing it. Will I ever not sin? Will I ever be perfect? Will I get to the point where I’m not tempted to sin willfully?

  10. I lust over men, I am an angry soul. I’ve had numerous unholy thoughts and I’ve been caught in addiction after addiction. I’ve dishonered my family and I even cursed out God before. I see my wrongs now and I’m sorry and I want to stop. I want to be holy, I don’t want to sin anymore. Sometimes when I start to walk in the spirit I feel like it’s too late and that I should give up. Even this morning I gave into pornography and I’m regretting it right now. I know my flesh doesn’t care but I want to stop. I was feeling tempted since last night. I’ve gotten rid of things that I thought trigger it but I still have this phone. Should I get rid of my phone? I use it for work but I know God will provide for me if I give this up right? Does God still want me to go to heaven? I willfully Sinned this morning and I feel so stupid for doing it. Will I ever not sin? Will I ever be perfect? Will I get to the point where I’m not tempted to sin willfully?

  11. ALL GLORY be to GOD FOREVER, amen!!!!!!

    I understand what you are going through from struggling with sexual sin because I too I have suffered with this struggle, and I am a woman, and I was deep in sin, and I was so beyond tired of it that it was not natural to me, which it isn’t natural to go over the WILL of GOD for everyone’s life, and how GOD made sex for married people, it’s a gift to them, and for reproduction, and not to be abused over the limit of GOD’S WILL for it, HIS purpose for sex, and when it is being abused, and going outside of GOD’S WILL, like sexual perversion of all sorts, lusting after corruption, like, for example being attracted to the same sex, and premarital sex before marriage, self pleasure, pleasuring yourself sexually, ungodly, and unholy corrupt sexually, impure, perverted thoughts which all of these things are corruption from the enemy Satan, they are sin because they are not in GOD’S WILL, which is HIS WORD, and GOD tells us to flee fornication, and abstain from all appearance of evil, amen! 1 Corinthians 6:18; 1 Thessalonians 5:22; Genesis 1:27-28; Mark 10:6-7, these are some Bible verses that explains how, and why GOD created humans, male, and female, marriage, sex, procreation, and how HE made the woman for the man so that she could be a help meet to him, Genesis 2:18, for relationship, his needs, and in other areas of his life because of the order and way GOD made humans with a living soul, a body, emotions, feelings that are met by GOD through companionship of becoming one flesh with a spouse that GOD chooses for the person, as like wise the woman’s needs are met as well from her husband, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically, but ultimately our every need is met in GOD, only, in every area of life Genesis 2:21-25! GOD is of ORDER, and not confusion 1Corinthians 14:33, which is of the enemy Satan only, and he is the one that causes people to sin against GOD through temptation of sin, starting with lust, lusting over something GOD made for GOOD, but Satan will try you as he did Eve in the garden of Eden. Genesis 3:1-7. GOD made everything good, and for a purpose Genesis 1:31, not to be abused, and go over HIS command for which it was made, and sex is not bad, not a sin, but it is made only solely for the purpose, and enjoyment for married couples, which consists of between a man, and a woman Hebrews 13:4! GOD made our bodies a certain way in order for the order of sex to be an activity between a male, and female, but when that order is abused, going outside of the order of GOD’S creation it is corruption, sin, and sin brings only destruction which only leads to death the course of sin, Genesis 3:14-19.

    Romans 1:18-31; 2:2
    These chapter and verses explains how the devil (Satan) caused people to sin against GOD, caused people to fall into corruption, sin, working against the order of GOD’S creation, the order of HIS WILL for all humanity, and life! But to remind you that it is not always Satan that causes people to sin, but there own selves because GOD gave everyone free will Genesis 2:17; 1 Corinthians 10:13, and sometimes we are tempted by our own lust, overly liking something that is good or wanting something that is not good in which we think is good for us, but isn’t! For example, food, over eating when your stomach is full, and still trying to eat while full, and then hurting yourself by overeating, which will then cause a complication, and then problems in the body that is not good! But all sin comes from the devil, period, and he is a LIAR John 8:44, and only speaks lies, and anything that is a lie isn’t good at all! GOD is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE, and HE is only GOOD, and only goodness comes from the TRUTH!!!!!!

    More detail about sin/lust, and how it starts, and what it does, and what it’s result is is James 1:15!

    But I wanted to let anyone on here who is or may be struggling with sexual immorality or sexual sin that GOD, JESUS CHRIST is the SAVIOR of our souls, and is a REDEEEMER, and is a DELIVERER from all sin, and that HE CAN, and WILL DELIVER you from yourself, and from sin, from the struggle, the bondage of the enemy Satan because HE did it for me, yes me in the MIGHTY NAME of CHRIST JESUS, amen!!!!!!! JOHN 8:36; 2 Corinthians 5:17!!!!!!!!!

    I can testify to anyone that in the NAME of CHRIST JESUS, I am FREE from sexual immorality, and the struggle I went through for years, years, and it almost killed me, but by the GRACE of GOD, GOD SAVED me, and spared my life, and I was on my way to hell, but my parents PRAYED for me constantly, and GOD heard their cries, prayers, and spared my life, and JESUS CHRIST is the REASON why I am STILL HERE today, and do not have the urge or feeling to sin or want to commit sin anymore, but hate sin passionately, strongly with all of my whole heart, amen! HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! By the grace of GOD I will pray for you, and anyone who is struggling with any weakness, and I encourage you to please ask GOD with all of your heart to help you, but you have to want to CHANGE, and not have it in your heart that you still want to continue to sin even if you repent, you have to REALLY WANT CHANGE, and give this STRUGGLE to GOD, and even ask HIM to SAVE YOU from YOURSELF because we can be our worst enemy, amen!!!!!!! I know what you are going through because I went through it, and GOD brought me right through it, and delivered me right out of it in the MIGHTY NAME of CHRIST JESUS, amen!!!!!!!! HALLELUJAH!!!!!!! It’s not easy, and I still go through things, but I am not willfully or influenced, nor want to sin against GOD, I pray to HIM whenever the devil tries to tempt me or if I feel that something is wrong, and I constantly talk to GOD all day, everyday, throughout everyday HE allows me to be here, and I surround myself with other believers of CHRIST as well, and attend church, a true Bible, HOLY GHOST filled, and believing, and POWER of GOD church because if the TRUTH of GOD’S WORD, and HIS HOLY SPIRIT, and HIS POWER is not in a church, then please get out of that church, and ask GOD to help, and lead you to one!!!!!! GOD bless you all, and GOD LOVES you all, and I do too in the NAME of CHRIST JESUS, amen! Give your life to GOD, and you will never, NEVER REGRET it, amen!!!!!!!!

  12. I must agree that Paul had something wrong that he just could not speak out. As a very close walking man of God that has trouble with the flesh when it comes to younger women, I imagine that this allocation would be something that an unmarried man would struggle with. Paul was not a God but a simple man with the same set of temptations that we all face. Why else would God use him so greatly to speak to us through his word except that he wants us each to know that he can use us for his glory through the grace of God in Christ Jesus who covers our sins perfectly, not partially or through our own devices. Paul had a weakness but being a man of God I am sure he battled and wrestled with it as most men do and it gave Satan something to taunt him by. Attempting to lessen his effectiveness through guilt was the plan but God spoke wisdom to Paul through the spirit and told him he was a man and God knew how to handle that, through an eternal sacrifice of his son and it doesn’t fail. Paul’s attitude was right and he was an upright man before God. If he had an affliction in his heart from failed acts in his flesh in private then I would say he was very strong and dealt within himself the best he could as a man but didn’t let his weakness overcome his strength because he had a job to do. You can do God’s work regardless of your weaknesses. Check yourself with God. If you’re upright and confess to him then he will take care of the rest. Just do your best. God knows what your best is. Don’t let the enemy steal your commitment and stamina as a child of God. That’s a lie that can’t be allowed in your life once you are saved. An evangelical Christian who was brought up believing in backsliding but God opened my eyes to that false belief. Once Christ’s blood covers you it’s a contract and nothing can or will pull you out of the hands of God. Jesus won’t let it. Some say denouncing will but I say only a fool would denounce such a wonderful gift. Only anger could bring those words and Christ would know it was a foolish remark that we would greatly regret so why would he honor it? If you are a Christian you are called. The main thing here is to continue working through your failures and you will still earn a crown cf righteousness to offer to Jesus one day when you see him. I’ll be praying for you all who are seeking answers. Stay strong and Marinotha.

  13. Greetings brothers in Jesus Holy name.
    I was healed from my sexual struggles but what God took me through to get there was supernatural.
    Oct of 2013 the Holy Spirit led me to the foot of the cross at the ripe old age of 45.
    I was born again and the change was immediate and profound. I had spent my whole life living in the worst kinds of sins with drugs, alcohol, crime, etc… I was a regular John Gotti type.
    Luckily I was in an environment that helped to foster my newly given life and not corrupt what God had just done to me.
    Since I was maybe 13 years old I was addicted to pornography and self pleasure. For the first three months after God saved me I fought the old man and tried to stop. There was a part of me that resisted the Holy Spirit and when I would fail time and time again I would be left with such shame of what I had done I felt like I was dying inside.
    Finally about the middle of February 2014 I had had enough, I was abstaining under my own strength and really feeling good about myself. I really thought I had it licked and that God would be proud of my self-will.
    Then like a perfect storm I found myself in the presence of my favorite kind of pornography and that old man reared his ugly head and like a robot I followed thru with what I had promised I would not do. Afterwards I stood staring into the bathroom mirror and tears ran down my face, I was so sick of myself and I felt so powerless to stop what I had been doing. I don’t know if it was my imagination but while looking in the mirror I saw Jesus standing behind me and he had tears running down his face. I cried out to the Lord “Please Lord take this sin from me, I can’t stop on my own!”.
    About four hours later I got into the shower and while standing under the hot water as it ran over my head I remembered what had happened earlier that day in the bathroom. In front of my as if the bathroom were now a large room I saw the air open in front of me and I saw Jesus on the cross. In my head I heard a voice say “This is what I did for you, and this is what you do for me.” At that moment it felt like God dipped a feather into my sin, then ran it down my arm so I could feel how that sin feels to him. What I felt was so abominable and dark it dropped me to my knees and I howled with such despair, I now knew how sin affects our Father and it broke me.
    It is now May of 2019 and I am 50 years old. Since that incident I have not looked at pornography nor touched myself in an impure way.
    So why did God take that sin from me, why did he make it so I am incapable of committing that sin when I still struggle with so many others?
    What I know to be true is this, God will not free you from something you are not willing to give up 100%. That day in front of the mirror when I called out to God I was completely and utterly broken by my sin and knew there was nothing in me that had the power to stop. God saw it too which is why he healed me.
    I have tried it with my other struggles but deep down I know I still hold a small place in my heart for the other sins, sure I don’t want to keep sinning but my other sins don’t have the affect on me that sexual sin did.
    Brothers if you still hold a small place in your heart for what you are doing, if you cry out for God to help you and God searches your heart but doesn’t see truth in your words then no help will God give.
    I pray you find the help I know only God is capable of giving.

  14. As I have struggled since teen years and now 40 and no changes even after praying, counseling and crying out i have come to realize what someone told me years ago. Predestination is as real as the person you see in the mirror. God has elected those to go to heaven and some not. It’s all through scripture. To those elected are delivered of their sins and to those who are not elected are left to crave and indulge in their sins with no hope of escaping. I have come to see this as absolute truth with my life. No matter how much you throw yourself on him, if you aren’t the elect it’s all in vain. It’s a sad reality of life and the after life. Hopefully this sheds light for those who have no answers to the why.

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