See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. – Isaiah 43:19
When asked to reveal his secret for staying married for well over half a century, Billy Graham gave a simple, yet somewhat paradoxical answer: “Ruth and I are happily incompatible.”
That’s a great answer to questions everyone inevitably asks themselves at some point during marriage: “How can I stay married to this person?” And, “Did I marry the wrong person?”
But that, “Did I marry the wrong person?” question is a dangerous one. Why? Because it’s framed completely wrong. And wrongly framed questions twist the issue and therefore elicit wrong answers. Furthermore, the question is based upon a serious misunderstanding of marriage itself. And misunderstandings create a fertile field for myths, myths that have the potential to damage your marriage.
When you married (or when you marry) you made a commitment to do certain things, like love, honor & cherish. There weren’t any “out” clauses in case the person wasn’t the right person for you.
Learn to be happily incompatible.
– Steve Arterburn
There is nothing nobler or more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends. – Homer (8th century)