We admitted that we were powerless over our dependencies and that our lives had become unmanageable.

lrd-painful-abandonmentMany of us know the deep sorrow and shame that come from being abandoned. Those we should have been able to depend on weren’t there for us. We may have lost them through an untimely death; or perhaps they were there in body but out of our reach emotionally because of their own addictions. We know the deep, unspeakable fear that can reach up and grab hold of us at any moment. We may have used our own compulsive behaviors to find comfort and distance from our feelings of abandonment.

Here’s the Lord’s message to those who have experienced the loss of an important relationship: “Sing, O childless woman! . . . For the desolate woman now has more children than the woman who lives with her husband! . . . Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you. You will no longer remember the shame of your youth and the sorrows of widowhood. For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth. For the Lord has called you back from your grief” (Isaiah 54:1, 4-6).

God wants to give us such confidence in our relationship with him that we can be free of the fear of abandonment and overcome its scars. He can make up to us all that we have missed in our past relationships. He can fill the shoes of the one who isn’t there for us. There is a season for grieving the losses, but the Lord can call us back from grief and give us renewed joy.

God delivers us from shame and abandonment, welcoming us to the joy of recovery.

Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.