Ridiculed for Sharing

Ridiculed for Sharing

When you open up share your feelings in an honest and transparent way, there can be risk involved. What should you do when you are vulnerability is then thrown back in your face and used against you in an argument. Click on the image below to hear Milan Yerkovich, author of How We Love, offers some great insight.

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Compassion: 10 Ways to Help People in Crisis

Compassion: 10 Ways to Help People in Crisis

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1. Be there! Even better than sound advice or financial aid is the physical presence of someone who is genuinely concerned.

2. Listen! It’s important that people in crisis are able to verbalize their story. It helps them process the situation – mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Encourage delaying any non-essential decisions until crisis has passed … There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. ~ Proverbs 12:18.

3. Don’t take any rash statements or harsh words too seriously. People in crisis often vent emotional stress in the most convenient direction. Don’t react, respond in love … Love is patient, love is kind. ~1 Corinthians 13:4

4. Know when to back off! Often, well-intentioned expressions of concern can cross emotional and practical boundaries. Watch for subtle signals that it may be time to give the person in crisis some space … The plans of the heart belong to man, But the answer of the tongue is from the Lord. ~Proverbs 16:1

5. Pray and alert others to pray too! In addition to the supernatural power of prayer, people in crisis often find great comfort in knowing that they’re being prayed for … pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. ~James 5:16

6. Find practical ways, however small, to help the person in crisis maintain routine functions. Simple things like bringing meals, doing laundry, taking the kids to soccer practice, etc. relieve enormous pressure during difficult times … And do not neglect doing good and sharing; for with such sacrifices God is pleased. ~Hebrews 13:16

7. Help the person in crisis maintain a realistic perspective. People in crisis are often overwhelmed by their situation. Remind them of life’s truly important issues and help them weigh their situation in the light of a realistic, eternal perspective.

8. Link them with helpful resources. People in crisis often don’t think clearly. Be an objective third party who can point to crisis agencies, clergy or other assistance.

9. Don’t think you’re not needed just because the crisis has passed. Crisis situations often have long-term consequences. Make yourself available for continuing care and concern.

10. What would Jesus do? Jesus encountered people in crisis regularly. Examine Scripture to glean wisdom from His example.

Are You Stuck?

Are You Stuck?

Feeling stuck? Steve Arterburn has ten questions to ask yourself that can help you to start moving forward! From checking your self-talk, and blame to listing your goals and obstacles, there are plenty of things you can do mentally and spiritually to get un-stuck! Watch now!

Managing a Difficult Mother-in-law

Managing a Difficult Mother-in-law

We receive lots of calls and emails from people who have problems with mothers-in-law. It can be a very difficult relationship for a lot of people to navigate, for several different reasons. Steve Arterburn takes on the common question and provides some practical advice on how to tackle what can sometimes be a perilous relationship for some. Click on the image below to watch.

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Unwrapping Co-Dependency

Unwrapping Co-Dependency

Co-dependency is a buzzword, but do you know what it really means?  You can call it enabling, rescuing, emotionally addicted or reliant on being a caretaker… Dr. John Townsend and Steve Arterburn unwrap what it really means and what you can do about it. Click on the image below to watch.

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Every Man’s Battle Workshop Feedback

Every Man’s Battle Workshop Feedback

This past weekend our Every Man’s Battle workshop was held in Washington DC. It was well attended, we had 88 men at the workshop and lives were forever impacted and forever changed. Here’s what one attendee had to say:

feed-back.newlifeAttending the EMB workshop this weekend can’t be described in depth within this page. Please allow me to use single words: open, loving, emotional, empowering, blessed, fortunate, friendship, bonding, crying, laughing, thoughtfulness, equipping, transforming, relieving, painful, joyful.

EMB has challenged me to be a NEW husband, a NEW son, a NEW friend, all as I walk closer and deeper with God. EMB has created a deep desire to connect with my brothers in Christ, to bond, heal and grow with.

Words can’t describe my gratitude for EMB, the staff, the event . . . life changing . . .Thank you!Tony

More Every Man’s Battle Testimonies . . .

Getting Past My Mother’s Condemnation

Getting Past My Mother’s Condemnation

Growing up with a critical mother can be tough, and sometimes the disapproval of our mothers can linger long after we mature into adulthood. How do we live with this, how can we move past the condemnation and still enjoy a life of healthy relationships. Steve Arterburn answers these questions for one our New Life TV subscribers.

10 Truths About Forgiveness

10 Truths About Forgiveness 

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1. Forgiveness always involves the moral side of life. It involves our sense of right and wrong, of fairness and of justice. It also involves our sense of love, compassion and mercy. When someone violates us with a seemingly unforgivable act, at least some of these values have been violated.

2. Revenge, no matter how just, can never bring satisfaction, for it can never replace what has been destroyed. It also brings us down to the level of the offender. Staying with vengeful thoughts is like playing an endless and painful video in our minds over and over again.

3. In Colossians 2:13, Paul describes forgiveness, “You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ. He forgave all our sins”. Why do some of us want to make certain things “unforgivable”?

4. “Forgive and forget” is a common belief that keeps us from forgiving in the first place. God forgives and forgets, (Jeremiah 31:34, Ps. 103:12) so why shouldn’t we? To “forgive and remember” is the way of healing, not from resentment or retaliation, but to learn and grow. When we experience real forgiveness, there is more to remember than pain. We are reminded of what God has done and is doing in our lives through his forgiving us and our forgiving them.

5. Forgiving other people does not in any way benefit or let them off the hook. It allows us to cancel the debt they owe us, which in all probability they can never repay anyway. We are the ones who are freed from the expectation of restitution for the wrongs done to us.

6. For there to be genuine reconciliation, I need to forgive, and the other person needs to show godly sorrow over what he or she has done. Forgiveness is required of us as believers, but reconciliation is optional and depends on the attitude of the offender.

7. We tend to choose the path of bitterness when we get caught up with wanting to understand the reasons for the offense. We think if we could only understand why the other person did what he or she did, then I could get over it and let it go. This leads to isolation and aloneness as we obsess over the painful event.

8. We need to be careful that we do not take forgiveness out of its spiritual context, however, because forgiveness can best be understood only in the context of our being forgiven by God. The theological and spiritual roots of forgiveness are what give it its healing power. Apart from that it can be a helpful tool but never to the same degree as when it is connected to the reality of God’s forgiveness of us.

9. Forgiveness is not a simple process, sometimes a miracle occurs and other times we plod along moving toward forgiveness. God always honors the move toward forgiveness; it is His plan for us.

10. When we forgive we are giving God the opportunity to work miracles in our lives in His way and His time.

Excerpted from Forgiving the Unforgivable by Dave Stoop


The 19 Foot Spinning Jesus

The 19 Foot Spinning Jesus

The preface of Henry Cloud’s new book is called “The 19 foot Spinning Jesus.” So are you intrigued? Join Steve Arterburn and Dr. Henry Cloud and listen as Henry shares the back story to this interesting phrase. In this segment Henry also  introduces us to the concepts of his new book, Never Go Back – 10 Things You’ll Never Do Again.

Click on the image below to watch.

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Betrayal Blindness

Betrayal Blindness

Sometimes when we’ve been betrayed, whether an unfaithful spouse, or abusive authority figure or corrupt institution, we refuse to see the truth in order to protect ourselves. Dr. Sheri Keffer joins Steve Arterburn to discuss this phenomenon of denial. Click on the image below to watch.

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