Delete is Incomplete

Posted on January 30, 2012 by Jason Martinkus

I just came across this news article about digital detectives and thought of the repercussions for people struggling with sexual integrity issues. The reality is what we do on our computers and phones is logged, archived, and retrievable, regardless whether we think we deleted it or not.

Did you know chat history can be recovered with a couple simple steps and the right tools?

Did you know all the porn sites you’ve visited, along with every picture you downloaded (and in what order you downloaded them) can be recalled?

Did you know that forensic experts can actually log every single keystroke on your computer? That means they can see every Facebook profile you clicked, every craigslist ad you perused and every Google image thumbnail you enlarged.

A quick reminder that delete is incomplete. May we live our online lives above reproach, such that if someone were to review our every keystroke and entire history, they would see God honored.

You can read the article by clicking HERE.

Phone Calls = Sexual Integrity

Posted on January 24, 2012 by Jason Martinkus

Did you know that phone calls lead to sexual integrity?

It is very, very, very rare to hear a guy talk about crossing his boundaries and acting out immediately before or immediately after a phone call to another buddy in trenches. On the other hand, there seems to be a pretty strong connection between guys who make consistent phone calls and guys who don’t act out again.

You see, there is something special that begins to happen when we make daily phone calls to other men who understand our struggle. First, we begin to develop connection and intimacy, where some of our core needs get met. We can start to sense significance in the relationship; like we actually matter to someone else on the planet. That person on the other end of the line can be a conduit of God’s grace to communicate that we matter. Second, we can begin to be a help to the other person. So often, I hear stories of guys who make a call and they reach a person who is struggling. The guy on the other end says, “you called me at just the right time”. It is pretty special to be the instrument God uses to help a fellow brother in a time of need. That’s significant!

If you are still acting out and struggling from time to time, incorporate daily phone calls into your battle plan. It’s one of the most difficult things to do, and also one of the most beneficial for your recovery.

Remember, for a guy who struggles with these issues: When you get out of touch with others, you start to touch your self.

Every Man’s Battle (full) 2-Part Story from NBC-LA

Posted on January 5, 2012 by New Life

NBC TV channel 4 in Los Angeles has just posted on their website a two-part story on our Every Man’s Battle workshop, Sex Addiction Part 1, and Sex Addiction Part 2.

Back in November they aired a short news story about EMB, and just today posted the two stories we expected to see then.

The links below will take you directly to the in depth stories about Every Mans Battle. Interviewed are Jason Martinkus, our presenter at EMB, Jim Phillis one of our counselors, an attendee, an alumnus, and the wife of one of our alums.

Click on the links below to view the two-part story. We’d love to hear what you think after you’ve seen them. And share these with family and friends. Please twitter and facebook at the bottom of each story on the NBC website. The more people who hear about Every Mans Battle, the more that can be helped.

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