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Topics: Separation, Marriage, Alcoholics, Divorce, Pornography
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. Jill Hubbard
Caller Questions:
- Should I start applying tough love to my wife?
- My priest advised me to break off my engagement with a man who drinks too much.
- How do I know God forgives divorce?
- Do I cross a line by asking to see the history on my husband’s computer?
Suggested Resources:
How We Love
Life Recovery Bible
Walking Into Walls
Necessary Endings
Link to New Life Live: March 5, 2012
March 5, 2012 at 10:42 am
I just listened on line to a call from a Lori whose husband does not “own anything”. I could so relate to her completely. I feel to be in the same exact spot. My husband “owns nothing” he has for years directed all our problems and problems he thinks our kids have to me. I am a people pleaser but I am tired of being manipulated and his verbal abuse is just killing any intimacy. I honestly have no hope for us and I am doing as Lori – staying until the kids are older. However, I am experiencing clear signs that my children are suffering in this family too. Does God forgive us if we just can’t hang in there any longer? Chances of my husband admitting any fault and addressing them is slim to none.
March 5, 2012 at 6:40 pm
“Larry” really knows how to play the squirrle in a cage routine. When there is a problem he doesn’t sound like he is willing to be a part of the solution and own his own behavior.
A very good book to read, In Sheep’s Clothing. I’m sorry for the wife and children and the frustration that enters into this household. I pray they will all seek a Celebrate Recovery group asap. The husband and wife need help in understanding the dysfunction they are both bringing into the relationship. God Bless em.
March 6, 2012 at 1:10 pm
There are many books titled In sheeps clothing. I am assuming you are referring to the one by George Simon. It has to be impossible to have a relationship with someone who is in denial about what is happening; the communication (if any) would be terrible.
March 6, 2012 at 10:39 am
I agree with Steve. Staying w/ someone who is a compulsive drinker is a matter of life and death. Ten years ago, my husband and I seperated for various reasons for 8 months. I thought we had resolved all of our major issues, except one—drinking. I heard God saying “not yet”, but I had younger children and just wanted him back home, so I disregarded that Still, Small Voice. He moved home in November 2003 and in February 2004, he was in an alcohol-related car accident on his way home from a work dinner. The driver of the other car was killed. He was a young dad of a 2 year-old and 12 day old baby. It was unspeakable. My husband was sentenced to 5 years in prison and served 14 months. In October 2010, I found out that he never stopped drinking–even when he was on parole! So, an innocent man is dead, he lost his wife (our divorce was just final last week), his children are no longer speaking to him, he’s lost 2 jobs—and he’s still drinking. Protect you and your child and do what you KNOW is right–not what you HOPE to be coming.